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On 4-6-2015 21:40, Orchid Win7 v1 wrote:
> On 04/06/2015 12:11 PM, Stephen wrote:
>> Andrew got a life?
>
> Hardly.
>
> For the past month, I've been tending my grandfather, who has suddenly
> been hospitalised. Last time I saw him, he was a regular guy. Now we
> can't speak, can't walk, can't move some of his limbs, can't do much of
> anything, really.
Sorry about that, Andrew. I understand how you are feeling. It comes as
a shock when loved ones are stricken down - apparently suddenly. We
generally turn a blind eye upon the possibility of harm or illness; we
do not want it to happen.
>
> It's rather frightening to think that some day soon, it will be me
> sitting in that hospital bed, knowing that the end is near, and that
> there's nothing that anybody can do about it. Damn, I've wasted my life!
Hopefully you still have a long life in front of you but it is wisdom to
realise that we are not eternal. In that sense, no life is wasted at all
and there is only the awareness and the (mild) regret that not
everything is possible (nor advisable). In the end, it is tending our
garden the best we can - and enjoying it of course. With the cumulation
of years, time speeds up indeed as suddenly you realise that only so
many years are left to you. It is a sobering thought but not necessarily
sad.
>
> The daft thing is... my grandfather himself seems to be the only person
> in the family who's *not* terribly upset about all this. For somebody
> who now can't do anything, he seems remarkably cheerful...
Yes, I am not really surprised. Take it as a comfort for you and you
will be able to tend him even better.
Take care.
--
Thomas
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A nice read on the topic: http://www.bbc.com/news/magazine-33023404
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Thomas
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On 07/06/2015 08:30, Thomas de Groot wrote:
> A nice read on the topic: http://www.bbc.com/news/magazine-33023404
>
Ah! Creamola Foam. :-)
I remember the first time a young person offered me her seat, on a bus.
I was mortified.
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Regards
Stephen
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On 7-6-2015 10:19, Stephen wrote:
> On 07/06/2015 08:30, Thomas de Groot wrote:
>> A nice read on the topic: http://www.bbc.com/news/magazine-33023404
>>
>
> Ah! Creamola Foam. :-)
I had to look it up. I have a vague recollection of something equivalent
in the 1950s though, involving crystals in individual paper packages.
>
> I remember the first time a young person offered me her seat, on a bus.
> I was mortified.
>
Lol, yes. I remember the first time a child in the street called me grandpa.
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Thomas
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>> It's rather frightening to think that some day soon, it will be me
>> sitting in that hospital bed, knowing that the end is near, and that
>> there's nothing that anybody can do about it. Damn, I've wasted my life!
>>
> Well it does come to us all. So do, what you think you would regret not
> having done. While you are still young(ish).
At the very least, I wasted ten years of my life at my last job. I get
the feeling it's time to leave my current one - but that would require
finding somewhere else to go...
> The same thing happened to a grand uncle of mine.
> I got the impression that he was quite happy to finish the course.
That reminds me of a song...
Cursum perficio.
Verbum sapienti:
Quo plus habent, eo plus cupiunt.
Post nubila, Phoebus.
Eternum.
(The first line means "I complete the course". I'll leave you boys with
a Latin education to figure out the rest...)
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On 05/06/2015 06:14 AM, Jim Henderson wrote:
> Very sorry to hear this, Andrew.
Yeah. What else is there to say?
Suffice it to say that I've never experienced death before. My grandad
isn't dead of course - but he looks so frail now...
>> It's rather frightening to think that some day soon, it will be me
>> sitting in that hospital bed, knowing that the end is near, and that
>> there's nothing that anybody can do about it. Damn, I've wasted my life!
>
> Hopefully not next week. But as Stephen says, do things now that you
> don't want to look back on and regret not doing.
If life were that simple, I would have done these things already.
I don't know... now every time I feel slightly tired or my feed ache
slightly or anything, I just feel like I'm completely falling apart.
Like my youth is over and I'll never feel fit and healthy ever again...
>> The daft thing is... my grandfather himself seems to be the only person
>> in the family who's *not* terribly upset about all this. For somebody
>> who now can't do anything, he seems remarkably cheerful...
>
> That's not uncommon, actually.
Hmm. He's probably just enjoying not doing the washing up ever day.
He may not be able to talk much, but he's still the cheeky old rascal
he's always been. (Last time I visited, he wanted us to smuggle in a gin
and tonic...)
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On 05/06/2015 07:49 AM, scott wrote:
> Sorry to hear that. It's surprising how fast things can change, a
> similar thing happened with my grandmother a couple of years ago. If
> it's any consolation then at least you are able to be there with him
> regularly.
Yeah. That's about it.
> Some day soon? What on Earth are you planning on doing!!
It seems like only a few months ago I was taking my Network
Architectures final exams.
Actually, then was ten years ago.
It just feels like in a few months' time, I'm going to wake up and
realise that my entire life is over, and I have nothing but regrets to
show for it.
That and a feeling of just having no idea what I actually want to do
with my life.
I guess everybody feels like that sometimes...
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On 05/06/2015 08:20 AM, Thomas de Groot wrote:
> Hopefully you still have a long life in front of you but it is wisdom to
> realise that we are not eternal. In that sense, no life is wasted at all
> and there is only the awareness and the (mild) regret that not
> everything is possible (nor advisable). In the end, it is tending our
> garden the best we can - and enjoying it of course. With the cumulation
> of years, time speeds up indeed as suddenly you realise that only so
> many years are left to you. It is a sobering thought but not necessarily
> sad.
I don't know. I still think of myself as a poor broke student. I've just
got my first real paying job. I've just moved out of my mum's house into
my first student flat. I'm just starting out in life...
...except it's not true. I'm 35 years old. I'm nearly at the end of my
career. In a few years' time I'll be TOO OLD to have children. [Not that
I want to, but you know.] When I look at a pretty girl, I suddenly
realise she's ten if not twenty years younger than me.
I just have an overwhelming feeling that it's all too late now. That the
best years of my life are long over, and there's nothing I can do about
it now.
Still, at least I have 23,000 rep on StackOverflow, eh? :-|
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On 07/06/2015 12:39, Orchid Win7 v1 wrote:
>
> At the very least, I wasted ten years of my life at my last job. I get
> the feeling it's time to leave my current one - but that would require
> finding somewhere else to go...
>
No! No!
It took us long enough to talk you into it last time. :-P
>> The same thing happened to a grand uncle of mine.
>> I got the impression that he was quite happy to finish the course.
>
> That reminds me of a song...
>
> Cursum perficio.
>
> (The first line means "I complete the course". I'll leave you boys with
> a Latin education to figure out the rest...)
I'll see your Enya and raise you Carmina Burana ~ O Fortuna
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Regards
Stephen
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On 07/06/2015 12:34, Thomas de Groot wrote:
> On 7-6-2015 10:19, Stephen wrote:
>> On 07/06/2015 08:30, Thomas de Groot wrote:
>>> A nice read on the topic: http://www.bbc.com/news/magazine-33023404
>>>
>>
>> Ah! Creamola Foam. :-)
>
> I had to look it up. I have a vague recollection of something equivalent
> in the 1950s though, involving crystals in individual paper packages.
>
Tooth rot in a tin. It was.
>>
>> I remember the first time a young person offered me her seat, on a bus.
>> I was mortified.
>>
>
>
> Lol, yes. I remember the first time a child in the street called me
> grandpa.
>
I've not had that yet. Maybe Dr. John has. ;-)
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Regards
Stephen
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