 |
|
|
|
|
|
| |
| |
|
|
|
|
| |
| |
|
|
Orchid XP v3 wrote:
> Lance Birch wrote:
>
>> Woah, wait, what happened? Clearly I've been away from this group for
>> too many weeks and missed something important...
>>
>> Someone fill me in!
>
> I've found a girl who seems extremely nice, but is also increadibly
> busy. If she's ever not busy for long enough, this may or may not become
> a beautiful relationship... And that's roughly as much as I know.
Hmm, well... good luck. I have a girl story too, actually, but it kind of
didn't end well.
But for now, need sleep! *wanders off in the darkness and flops into bed*
Keep us posted... (as if I have to ask)
Lance.
thezone - thezone.firewave.com.au
Post a reply to this message
|
|
| |
| |
|
|
|
|
| |
| |
|
|
"Lance Birch" wrote:
> Orchid XP v3 wrote:
>> I've found a girl who seems extremely nice, but is also increadibly busy.
>> If she's ever not busy for long enough, this may or may not become a
>> beautiful relationship... And that's roughly as much as I know.
>
> Hmm, well... good luck. I have a girl story too, actually, but it kind of
> didn't end well.
Do post, if you feel like sharing. The bad ending ones are the ones people
actually care to read anyway.
It might be different in Andrews case - when he some day finally have a good
ended story about a girl to tell, there will probably be a reaction, but
only because "Andrew's missing love" has become a soap here, so the climatic
ending is highly anticipated. A conflict is a good story, resoluted in the
end or not, but a good ending without a prior established conflict is not...
Rune
Post a reply to this message
|
|
| |
| |
|
|
|
|
| |
| |
|
|
Rune wrote:
> "Lance Birch" wrote:
>> Orchid XP v3 wrote:
>>> I've found a girl who seems extremely nice, but is also increadibly busy.
>>> If she's ever not busy for long enough, this may or may not become a
>>> beautiful relationship... And that's roughly as much as I know.
>> Hmm, well... good luck. I have a girl story too, actually, but it kind of
>> didn't end well.
>
> Do post, if you feel like sharing. The bad ending ones are the ones people
> actually care to read anyway.
>
> It might be different in Andrews case - when he some day finally have a good
> ended story about a girl to tell, there will probably be a reaction, but
> only because "Andrew's missing love" has become a soap here, so the climatic
> ending is highly anticipated. A conflict is a good story, resoluted in the
> end or not, but a good ending without a prior established conflict is not...
Hmm... that's a good observation.
Well, for me... I won't post the whole story, but a quick summary is that
a girl asked me out (yes you did read that correctly, a girl... asked...
*me*... out! Me! Asked me out!%$@). Don't get too excited though,
because things ended in disappointment for everyone.
Some back story: When I occasionally head out of town for the weekend to
lunch. It's kind of like a tradition now - the food there is great, and
we've gotten to know the owner quite well (as not only have we now been
going there for years, but coincidentally we used to visit another
business that they ran many years ago as well). So, we're treated like
family there and know the staff well.
A few months ago the owner, while we were talking about the fact that my
brother and I don't have girlfriends, joked to me that one of the staff
there (the girl in question) had said that I was "kind of cute". It was a
passing comment and I didn't really think much more of it.
Time went by and, unbeknownst to me, this girl had apparently been
considering asking me out for quite some time (!) and it had become a
running inside-joke with the staff there every time we visited. They had
been joking with her and encouraging her to ask me out, and she had been
becoming increasing more nervous about doing so. Last weekend the plot
thickened considerably. Apparently the previous time we'd been there
(several weeks earlier), she had seen us come in from their second nearby
serve us so that she could ask me out :o But it wasn't to be, because the
owner had started serving us already, so that was the end of that. Until
last weekend, when we visited again, and this time she was there.
We ordered as usual and went and found a table, and when our coffees were
delivered the guy made a particular point of my coffee saying "and this
coffee is especially for you". I didn't really know what he was talking
about until I decided to take a sip and upon lifting up the cup found a
tiny envelope under it on the saucer. You can see where this is going...
heh. I opened it up, being watched closely now by my family (and, they
later told me, all of the staff) and sure enough it was a note from her
asking me out, with her phone number!
I nearly fell off my chair.
Now I'm going to cut to the chase; she's pretty (although not really my
type - but she likes me so who cares), she's bubbly and enthusiastic,
she's my age... but...
I'm in a very strange point in my life right now, and a relationship would
be an irresponsible thing to enter into, for her and for me, and this is
what I ended up telling her.
Disappointed at how this story is going now? And that's how I'm sure she
felt, after picking up the courage to ask someone out like that, and for
how long she's had this crush. And it's how my family felt too, because
they'd instantly become wrapped up in the excitement of the moment as
well. I'm sure the other staff, after hearing how things turned out, felt
disappointed for her as well. And it's how I felt, because the most
painful feeling is knowing that you've let everyone down. In fact it's a
horrible, unimaginably bad feeling, one that hollows you out and leaves
you feeling like a fool.
So... that's the story so far. It's going to be interesting next time we
go there... interesting, and uncomfortable. The reasons for not wanting a
relationship right now are complex (but they are very good reasons; ones
not arrived at by accident or impulse), and I don't really want to go into
them here, but that's how it is :/ I explained them to my family and to
her though, which was a difficult thing for me to do, but necessary. I
think everyone understood then, but things are now very strange.
.. I don't know how to finish this post, because I suppose the saga isn't
really over yet! But there you have it, that's my story.
Lance.
thezone - thezone.firewave.com.au
Post a reply to this message
|
|
| |
| |
|
|
|
|
| |
| |
|
|
Lance Birch wrote:
> We ordered as usual and went and found a table, and when our coffees
> were delivered the guy made a particular point of my coffee saying "and
> this coffee is especially for you". I didn't really know what he was
> talking about until I decided to take a sip and upon lifting up the cup
> found a tiny envelope under it on the saucer. You can see where this is
> going... heh. I opened it up, being watched closely now by my family
> (and, they later told me, all of the staff) and sure enough it was a
> note from her asking me out, with her phone number!
>
> I nearly fell off my chair.
Hahahahah!
0WNERSHIP!
Man, that's just far out...
--
http://blog.orphi.me.uk/
Post a reply to this message
|
|
| |
| |
|
|
|
|
| |
| |
|
|
"Orchid XP v3" <voi### [at] dev null> wrote in message
news:4706701e$1@news.povray.org...
So, where are you up to with your girl? Is she back yet? Did you text her
saying that you would like to take her out for a nice meal on her return?
~Steve~
> --
> http://blog.orphi.me.uk/
Post a reply to this message
|
|
| |
| |
|
|
|
|
| |
| |
|
|
Aww, such a sweet story though. Taking her time building up courage and
point in your life, whatever it is. If you would really have liked to go on
a date with her, I hope you didn't take the responsibility issue too
serious. I mean, you shouldn't break promises, but if you make your
situation clear to her and treat her with respect, it might not have hurt
going on a few dates, even if you know you couldn't commit to a lasting
relationship. I know some people will disagree with me on this one, but
sometimes seizing the day right now is more important than considering the
future, if you want to fully live life. But then, I don't know if you
actually did go on some dates. The story's a bit fuzzy there, but that's all
right. :)
In any case, I hope the thought about this sweet girl actually being so
interested in you for a long time brings a little warmth to you, even if
things didn't end perfectly.
Rune
Post a reply to this message
|
|
| |
| |
|
|
|
|
| |
| |
|
|
St. wrote:
> So, where are you up to with your girl? Is she back yet? Did you text her
> saying that you would like to take her out for a nice meal on her return?
*Hopefully* I will be meeting up with her next weekend.
At least, I *really* hope so, because directly after that she's going to
"dominican republic" for a month. ("Holiday".)
--
http://blog.orphi.me.uk/
Post a reply to this message
|
|
| |
| |
|
|
|
|
| |
| |
|
|
Lance Birch wrote:
> Rune wrote:
>> "Lance Birch" wrote:
>>> Orchid XP v3 wrote:
>>>> I've found a girl who seems extremely nice, but is also increadibly
>>>> busy. If she's ever not busy for long enough, this may or may not
>>>> become a beautiful relationship... And that's roughly as much as I
>>>> know.
>>> Hmm, well... good luck. I have a girl story too, actually, but it
>>> kind of didn't end well.
>>
>> Do post, if you feel like sharing. The bad ending ones are the ones
>> people actually care to read anyway.
>>
>> It might be different in Andrews case - when he some day finally have
>> a good ended story about a girl to tell, there will probably be a
>> reaction, but only because "Andrew's missing love" has become a soap
>> here, so the climatic ending is highly anticipated. A conflict is a
>> good story, resoluted in the end or not, but a good ending without a
>> prior established conflict is not...
>
> Hmm... that's a good observation.
>
> Well, for me... I won't post the whole story, but a quick summary is
> that a girl asked me out (yes you did read that correctly, a girl...
> asked... *me*... out! Me! Asked me out!%$@). Don't get too excited
> though, because things ended in disappointment for everyone.
>
> Some back story: When I occasionally head out of town for the weekend
> have lunch. It's kind of like a tradition now - the food there is
> great, and we've gotten to know the owner quite well (as not only have
> we now been going there for years, but coincidentally we used to visit
> another business that they ran many years ago as well). So, we're
> treated like family there and know the staff well.
>
> A few months ago the owner, while we were talking about the fact that my
> brother and I don't have girlfriends, joked to me that one of the staff
> there (the girl in question) had said that I was "kind of cute". It was
> a passing comment and I didn't really think much more of it.
>
> Time went by and, unbeknownst to me, this girl had apparently been
> considering asking me out for quite some time (!) and it had become a
> running inside-joke with the staff there every time we visited. They
> had been joking with her and encouraging her to ask me out, and she had
> been becoming increasing more nervous about doing so. Last weekend the
> plot thickened considerably. Apparently the previous time we'd been
> there (several weeks earlier), she had seen us come in from their second
> to be, because the owner had started serving us already, so that was the
> end of that. Until last weekend, when we visited again, and this time
> she was there.
>
> We ordered as usual and went and found a table, and when our coffees
> were delivered the guy made a particular point of my coffee saying "and
> this coffee is especially for you". I didn't really know what he was
> talking about until I decided to take a sip and upon lifting up the cup
> found a tiny envelope under it on the saucer. You can see where this is
> going... heh. I opened it up, being watched closely now by my family
> (and, they later told me, all of the staff) and sure enough it was a
> note from her asking me out, with her phone number!
>
> I nearly fell off my chair.
>
> Now I'm going to cut to the chase; she's pretty (although not really my
> type - but she likes me so who cares), she's bubbly and enthusiastic,
> she's my age... but...
>
> I'm in a very strange point in my life right now, and a relationship
> would be an irresponsible thing to enter into, for her and for me, and
> this is what I ended up telling her.
>
> Disappointed at how this story is going now? And that's how I'm sure
> she felt, after picking up the courage to ask someone out like that, and
> for how long she's had this crush. And it's how my family felt too,
> because they'd instantly become wrapped up in the excitement of the
> moment as well. I'm sure the other staff, after hearing how things
> turned out, felt disappointed for her as well. And it's how I felt,
> because the most painful feeling is knowing that you've let everyone
> down. In fact it's a horrible, unimaginably bad feeling, one that
> hollows you out and leaves you feeling like a fool.
>
> So... that's the story so far. It's going to be interesting next time
> we go there... interesting, and uncomfortable. The reasons for not
> wanting a relationship right now are complex (but they are very good
> reasons; ones not arrived at by accident or impulse), and I don't really
> want to go into them here, but that's how it is :/ I explained them to
> my family and to her though, which was a difficult thing for me to do,
> but necessary. I think everyone understood then, but things are now
> very strange.
>
> ... I don't know how to finish this post, because I suppose the saga
> isn't really over yet! But there you have it, that's my story.
>
> Lance.
>
> thezone - thezone.firewave.com.au
Hey Andrew.... I heard about this little cafe with a cute employee....
if things don't work for Lance it might be worth considering trying all
sorts of coffee flavors.....
then again....
Post a reply to this message
|
|
| |
| |
|
|
|
|
| |
| |
|
|
Tom Austin wrote:
> Hey Andrew.... I heard about this little cafe with a cute employee....
>
> if things don't work for Lance it might be worth considering trying all
> sorts of coffee flavors.....
>
> then again....
LOL :)
Lance.
thezone - thezone.firewave.com.au
Post a reply to this message
|
|
| |
| |
|
|
|
|
| |
| |
|
|
Rune wrote:
> Aww, such a sweet story though. Taking her time building up courage and
> point in your life, whatever it is. If you would really have liked to go on
> a date with her, I hope you didn't take the responsibility issue too
> serious. I mean, you shouldn't break promises, but if you make your
> situation clear to her and treat her with respect, it might not have hurt
> going on a few dates, even if you know you couldn't commit to a lasting
> relationship. I know some people will disagree with me on this one, but
> sometimes seizing the day right now is more important than considering the
> future, if you want to fully live life. But then, I don't know if you
> actually did go on some dates. The story's a bit fuzzy there, but that's all
> right. :)
No we didn't... Another part of the problem was that she'd assumed I lived
with my brother there, but in reality I live a 4 hour drive away. But I
know what you mean about seizing the day, and if I'd really been 'into'
her then I probably would have gone on a date. Once things settle down a
bit I'll probably get in touch again and might go out with her somewhere
just to make up for the way things happened (my brother wants me to make
it a double date - get her to bring a lady friend along for him!). The
logistics of being where I am make it not as straight-forward though, even
without all of the other stuff (which is far more complex than what I've
mentioned here, but with time will become less so).
> In any case, I hope the thought about this sweet girl actually being so
> interested in you for a long time brings a little warmth to you, even if
> things didn't end perfectly.
Oh, it does; it's very flattering! It's not often (at least not for me!)
that someone tells you're cute and that they like you :O In fact I don't
recall that ever happening to me before, and in general I can't think of
any girl that has asked out a guy... it's always been the other way around.
Life is a funny thing...
Lance.
thezone - thezone.firewave.com.au
Post a reply to this message
|
|
| |
| |
|
|
|
|
| |
|
|
