Lance Birch wrote:
> Rune wrote:
>> "Lance Birch" wrote:
>>> Orchid XP v3 wrote:
>>>> I've found a girl who seems extremely nice, but is also increadibly 
>>>> busy. If she's ever not busy for long enough, this may or may not 
>>>> become a beautiful relationship... And that's roughly as much as I 
>>>> know.
>>> Hmm, well... good luck.  I have a girl story too, actually, but it 
>>> kind of didn't end well.
>>
>> Do post, if you feel like sharing. The bad ending ones are the ones 
>> people actually care to read anyway.
>>
>> It might be different in Andrews case - when he some day finally have 
>> a good ended story about a girl to tell, there will probably be a 
>> reaction, but only because "Andrew's missing love" has become a soap 
>> here, so the climatic ending is highly anticipated. A conflict is a 
>> good story, resoluted in the end or not, but a good ending without a 
>> prior established conflict is not...
> 
> Hmm... that's a good observation.
> 
> Well, for me... I won't post the whole story, but a quick summary is 
> that a girl asked me out (yes you did read that correctly, a girl... 
> asked... *me*... out!  Me!  Asked me out!%$@).  Don't get too excited 
> though, because things ended in disappointment for everyone.
> 
> Some back story:  When I occasionally head out of town for the weekend 

> have lunch.  It's kind of like a tradition now - the food there is 
> great, and we've gotten to know the owner quite well (as not only have 
> we now been going there for years, but coincidentally we used to visit 
> another business that they ran many years ago as well).  So, we're 
> treated like family there and know the staff well.
> 
> A few months ago the owner, while we were talking about the fact that my 
> brother and I don't have girlfriends, joked to me that one of the staff 
> there (the girl in question) had said that I was "kind of cute".  It was 
> a passing comment and I didn't really think much more of it.
> 
> Time went by and, unbeknownst to me, this girl had apparently been 
> considering asking me out for quite some time (!) and it had become a 
> running inside-joke with the staff there every time we visited.  They 
> had been joking with her and encouraging her to ask me out, and she had 
> been becoming increasing more nervous about doing so.  Last weekend the 
> plot thickened considerably.  Apparently the previous time we'd been 
> there (several weeks earlier), she had seen us come in from their second 



> to be, because the owner had started serving us already, so that was the 
> end of that.  Until last weekend, when we visited again, and this time 
> she was there.
> 
> We ordered as usual and went and found a table, and when our coffees 
> were delivered the guy made a particular point of my coffee saying "and 
> this coffee is especially for you".  I didn't really know what he was 
> talking about until I decided to take a sip and upon lifting up the cup 
> found a tiny envelope under it on the saucer.  You can see where this is 
> going... heh.  I opened it up, being watched closely now by my family 
> (and, they later told me, all of the staff) and sure enough it was a 
> note from her asking me out, with her phone number!
> 
> I nearly fell off my chair.
> 
> Now I'm going to cut to the chase;  she's pretty (although not really my 
> type - but she likes me so who cares), she's bubbly and enthusiastic, 
> she's my age... but...
> 
> I'm in a very strange point in my life right now, and a relationship 
> would be an irresponsible thing to enter into, for her and for me, and 
> this is what I ended up telling her.
> 
> Disappointed at how this story is going now?  And that's how I'm sure 
> she felt, after picking up the courage to ask someone out like that, and 
> for how long she's had this crush.  And it's how my family felt too, 
> because they'd instantly become wrapped up in the excitement of the 
> moment as well.  I'm sure the other staff, after hearing how things 
> turned out, felt disappointed for her as well.  And it's how I felt, 
> because the most painful feeling is knowing that you've let everyone 
> down.  In fact it's a horrible, unimaginably bad feeling, one that 
> hollows you out and leaves you feeling like a fool.
> 
> So... that's the story so far.  It's going to be interesting next time 
> we go there... interesting, and uncomfortable.  The reasons for not 
> wanting a relationship right now are complex (but they are very good 
> reasons; ones not arrived at by accident or impulse), and I don't really 
> want to go into them here, but that's how it is :/  I explained them to 
> my family and to her though, which was a difficult thing for me to do, 
> but necessary.  I think everyone understood then, but things are now 
> very strange.
> 
> ... I don't know how to finish this post, because I suppose the saga 
> isn't really over yet!  But there you have it, that's my story.
> 
> Lance.
> 
> thezone - thezone.firewave.com.au


Hey Andrew....  I heard about this little cafe with a cute employee....

if things don't work for Lance it might be worth considering trying all 
sorts of coffee flavors.....

then again....

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