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Rune wrote:
> "Lance Birch" wrote:
>> Orchid XP v3 wrote:
>>> I've found a girl who seems extremely nice, but is also increadibly busy.
>>> If she's ever not busy for long enough, this may or may not become a
>>> beautiful relationship... And that's roughly as much as I know.
>> Hmm, well... good luck. I have a girl story too, actually, but it kind of
>> didn't end well.
>
> Do post, if you feel like sharing. The bad ending ones are the ones people
> actually care to read anyway.
>
> It might be different in Andrews case - when he some day finally have a good
> ended story about a girl to tell, there will probably be a reaction, but
> only because "Andrew's missing love" has become a soap here, so the climatic
> ending is highly anticipated. A conflict is a good story, resoluted in the
> end or not, but a good ending without a prior established conflict is not...
Hmm... that's a good observation.
Well, for me... I won't post the whole story, but a quick summary is that
a girl asked me out (yes you did read that correctly, a girl... asked...
*me*... out! Me! Asked me out!%$@). Don't get too excited though,
because things ended in disappointment for everyone.
Some back story: When I occasionally head out of town for the weekend to
lunch. It's kind of like a tradition now - the food there is great, and
we've gotten to know the owner quite well (as not only have we now been
going there for years, but coincidentally we used to visit another
business that they ran many years ago as well). So, we're treated like
family there and know the staff well.
A few months ago the owner, while we were talking about the fact that my
brother and I don't have girlfriends, joked to me that one of the staff
there (the girl in question) had said that I was "kind of cute". It was a
passing comment and I didn't really think much more of it.
Time went by and, unbeknownst to me, this girl had apparently been
considering asking me out for quite some time (!) and it had become a
running inside-joke with the staff there every time we visited. They had
been joking with her and encouraging her to ask me out, and she had been
becoming increasing more nervous about doing so. Last weekend the plot
thickened considerably. Apparently the previous time we'd been there
(several weeks earlier), she had seen us come in from their second nearby
serve us so that she could ask me out :o But it wasn't to be, because the
owner had started serving us already, so that was the end of that. Until
last weekend, when we visited again, and this time she was there.
We ordered as usual and went and found a table, and when our coffees were
delivered the guy made a particular point of my coffee saying "and this
coffee is especially for you". I didn't really know what he was talking
about until I decided to take a sip and upon lifting up the cup found a
tiny envelope under it on the saucer. You can see where this is going...
heh. I opened it up, being watched closely now by my family (and, they
later told me, all of the staff) and sure enough it was a note from her
asking me out, with her phone number!
I nearly fell off my chair.
Now I'm going to cut to the chase; she's pretty (although not really my
type - but she likes me so who cares), she's bubbly and enthusiastic,
she's my age... but...
I'm in a very strange point in my life right now, and a relationship would
be an irresponsible thing to enter into, for her and for me, and this is
what I ended up telling her.
Disappointed at how this story is going now? And that's how I'm sure she
felt, after picking up the courage to ask someone out like that, and for
how long she's had this crush. And it's how my family felt too, because
they'd instantly become wrapped up in the excitement of the moment as
well. I'm sure the other staff, after hearing how things turned out, felt
disappointed for her as well. And it's how I felt, because the most
painful feeling is knowing that you've let everyone down. In fact it's a
horrible, unimaginably bad feeling, one that hollows you out and leaves
you feeling like a fool.
So... that's the story so far. It's going to be interesting next time we
go there... interesting, and uncomfortable. The reasons for not wanting a
relationship right now are complex (but they are very good reasons; ones
not arrived at by accident or impulse), and I don't really want to go into
them here, but that's how it is :/ I explained them to my family and to
her though, which was a difficult thing for me to do, but necessary. I
think everyone understood then, but things are now very strange.
.. I don't know how to finish this post, because I suppose the saga isn't
really over yet! But there you have it, that's my story.
Lance.
thezone - thezone.firewave.com.au
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