>>>     <sigh> Meet her before she goes...
>> Yeah. Inbetween her having to finish her PhD in the next 17 days and her 
>> employer who might be sending her to Japan on Thursday and she's going on 
>> holiday to somewhere else in a few weeks' time and...
> 
>       Well, maybe she isn't the one for you then, but there's plenty more 
> out there...

*sigh* Yeah, it seems she isn't. And that makes me very sad indeed. I 
was so hoping she would be... Now I've gone from "I might have a 
girlfriend in a few weeks" back to plain "I am hopelessly single", with 
no future in sight. Great.

There are plenty of *people* out there, some of whom are female, but it 
seems there are very few indeed who are suitable for me. I don't doubt 
they exist - just my ability to find them. :-(

>>>     Come on Andrew, get your act together.
>> I fail to see how getting a place of my own is going to help in any way, 
>> shape or form. (Never mind the minor detail that I already know I can't 
>> afford it...)
> 
>       Gah... <starts banging head against wall>. You are SO frustrating 
> Andrew.  :o/

Incidentally... that pain you're feeling in your head right now? I get 
that when I cough. Which I seem to be doing a lot right now...

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"Orchid XP v3" <voi### [at] devnull> wrote in message 
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>>       Gah... <starts banging head against wall>. You are SO frustrating 
>> Andrew.  :o/
>
> Incidentally... that pain you're feeling in your head right now? I get 
> that when I cough. Which I seem to be doing a lot right now...


    My friend, believe me when I tell you that my head hurts almost 
permanently now, and you wouldn't want what's producing it. Really.

     ~Steve~



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Orchid XP v3 wrote:
> I fail to see how getting a place of my own is going to help in any
> way, shape or form.

Grown up women in the UK generally don't mind that their potential boyfriend 
live with his mother?

> (Never mind the minor detail that I already know
> I can't afford it...)

I'm curious. How can that be, when you have a job? Do you have some huge 
expenses or do you only work part-time or something?

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>> I fail to see how getting a place of my own is going to help in any
>> way, shape or form.
> 
> Grown up women in the UK generally don't mind that their potential boyfriend 
> live with his mother?

Well, I'm 27, she's 25, not sure if that qualifies as "grown up".

>> (Never mind the minor detail that I already know
>> I can't afford it...)
> 
> I'm curious. How can that be, when you have a job? Do you have some huge 
> expenses or do you only work part-time or something?

Housing prices in the UK are currently astronomical. (But don't worry; 
the prices are going to start going down any minute now... OK, maybe in 
a minute or two... no, really, they can't just keep rising forever...)

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On Tue, 25 Sep 2007 17:13:50 +0100, Orchid XP v3 wrote:

>> Grown up women in the UK generally don't mind that their potential
>> boyfriend live with his mother?
> 
> Well, I'm 27, she's 25, not sure if that qualifies as "grown up".

It does.  Trust me.

Jim

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"Orchid XP v3" <voi### [at] devnull> wrote in message 
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>>> I fail to see how getting a place of my own is going to help in any
>>> way, shape or form.
>>
>> Grown up women in the UK generally don't mind that their potential 
>> boyfriend live with his mother?
>
> Well, I'm 27, she's 25, not sure if that qualifies as "grown up".

Eh???

Are you sure if the Sun qualifies as "bright", or if the Atlantic Ocean 
qualifies as "deep"??  Helloo??!!  Yes Andrew, twenty-five is VERY grown up. 
Childhood and teenage are far gone for both of you.  Even she finished high 
school eight years ago, and could easily have taken a different path and 
have her own children by now.

Sometimes, you say things that are so gauche, they're unintentionally funny 
and child-like.  Unfortunately, that's because you've experienced nothing of 
the adult's world, and that's because you 're still at home, in your 
bedroom, being cared for by Mum.

>>> (Never mind the minor detail that I already know
>>> I can't afford it...)
>>
>> I'm curious. How can that be, when you have a job? Do you have some huge 
>> expenses or do you only work part-time or something?
>
> Housing prices in the UK are currently astronomical. (But don't worry; the 
> prices are going to start going down any minute now... OK, maybe in a 
> minute or two... no, really, they can't just keep rising forever...)
>

Yes, buying is getting hard and harder.  I agree totally.  But that doesn't 
justify a strategy of "give up".  What happened to the job replacement 
search?  That story's gone quiet for a while.

You've got to do *something*!  Rent a room, live in a caravan, live in a 
tent, live in a hostel, share accomodation.  If you carry on with the "do 
nothing" option as it seems now, soon you will be 30 and still under Mum's 
care.  People will think you are one of those mentally retarded kids who 
HAVE TO be cared for by their parents after they're adults.

And doesn't your Mum deserve a break?  She's been a parent for a long time 
and surely while she's still young enough to enjoy it, she would like some 
of her old free life back that she used to have before the first baby came 
along...

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   Yep.

    ~Steve~



> Brian

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Orchid XP v3 wrote:
>>> I fail to see how getting a place of my own is going to help in any
>>> way, shape or form.
>>
>> Grown up women in the UK generally don't mind that their potential
>> boyfriend live with his mother?
>
> Well, I'm 27, she's 25, not sure if that qualifies as "grown up".

Let me put it another way. For women who have moved out from home 
themselves, do they generally don't mind that their potential boyfriend 
still live with his mother?

Do the women you've been interested in live by their parents?

> Housing prices in the UK are currently astronomical.

Renting an apartment is not an option then? What do other young people your 
age in the UK do?

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Rune wrote:

>>> Grown up women in the UK generally don't mind that their potential
>>> boyfriend live with his mother?
>> Well, I'm 27, she's 25, not sure if that qualifies as "grown up".
> 
> Let me put it another way. For women who have moved out from home 
> themselves, do they generally don't mind that their potential boyfriend 
> still live with his mother?

Well, none of the ones I've spoken to seemed to mind.

> Do the women you've been interested in live by their parents?

Let me count... 3 did, 3 didn't.

>> Housing prices in the UK are currently astronomical.
> 
> What do other young people your age in the UK do?

You're asking *me*?

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Brian Elliott wrote:

>> Well, I'm 27, she's 25, not sure if that qualifies as "grown up".
> 
> Eh???  Helloo??!!  Yes Andrew, twenty-five is VERY grown 
> up. Childhood and teenage are far gone for both of you.

Well, I guess maybe you could say I'm in "denial" or something.

I really hate being old. I'd much rather be a teenager again...

As a teenager, it's considered "normal" to date girls. As an adult, I 
just feel like a dirty old man when I even contemplate interacting with 
girls. :-(

> Sometimes, you say things that are so gauche, they're unintentionally 
> funny and child-like.  Unfortunately, that's because you've experienced 
> nothing of the adult's world, and that's because you 're still at home, 
> in your bedroom, being cared for by Mum.

Cared for? Heck, this month I think I've seen her about 3 times. The 
rest of the time she isn't even here! Heh. (For example, while I've been 
suffering with this cold, she's been in north Wales. Suffering even 
more, no doubt... When she left, there wasn't even any food in the house.)

(I don't know about the adult's world - I haven't seen the child's one yet!)

>> Housing prices in the UK are currently astronomical.
> 
> Yes, buying is getting hard and harder.  I agree totally.  But that 
> doesn't justify a strategy of "give up".

I did actually go to the trouble of going to see a finance advisor to 
see what the story really is. I was expecting him to say that something 
could be done (after all, that way he gets to sell me a product). But 
no. Apparently I simply don't earn enough money.

> What happened to the job 
> replacement search?  That story's gone quiet for a while.

That came to a halt because I just don't know where to go next.

I started out by writing a CV. I know how to do that. And there are 
people who will give you advice and so forth on that. If I know what to 
do, I can do it.

But then it came to the actual searching for jobs part. And that I've 
never known how to do. And I still don't know how to do it. I've looked 
in all the obvious places - the local paper, the local paper's website, 
various heavily advertised job websites. I can't find anything remotely 
similar to what I'm looking for. So, basically, I'm completely stuck, 
and I don't know what to do next.

> You've got to do *something*!  Rent a room, live in a caravan, live in a 
> tent, live in a hostel, share accomodation.

Hmm. Sleep in a tent and die of hypothermia, or live in a perfectly good 
house? Gee, let me think...

No, if I'm going to move out, I need a *real* place to stay. Doesn't 
need to be a place, but it at least needs to be SAFE.

> If you carry on with the 
> "do nothing" option as it seems now, soon you will be 30 and still under 
> Mum's care.  People will think you are one of those mentally retarded 
> kids who HAVE TO be cared for by their parents after they're adults.

I suppose technically they'd be right...

> And doesn't your Mum deserve a break?

Heh. The day I move out (assuming it ever comes), she will be utterly 
devestated. Once I leave, she will be financially ruined, and she will 
be utterly alone. She's such an obnoxious women that she doesn't have 
any "friends", so she will just sit by herself watching TV with nobody 
to tell what a crappy day she had.

I, on the other hand, won't have to put up with some person periodically 
storming in and ruining my life... Ah, it will be bliss! If only I knew 
how...

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