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Slime wrote:
>> At any rate, my point is that I live in a large urban area. It's not
>> exactly "too small a town".
>
> Are you taking advantage of it?
>
> My advice, since this has worked fairly well for myself: Try to make friends
> with some other single men your age who will push you to go places you
> wouldn't normally go. If you already have friends like that (say, at work),
> express interest in going out with them. Of course, you have to be willing
> to do so if they invite you. If you're not willing (too shy), then you have
> to remind yourself that it's a necessary step to improving the part of your
> life that makes you unhappy.
But that's the fun thing, see? I don't know anybody who lives in my home
town.
Well, except for the people I go dancing with. I keep trying to come up
with a way to make use of that one, but I'm not getting very far. It
seems that unlike me, most people have busy social lives with no room
for a looser like me.
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>> It just seems everywhere I go, everybody else falls into a completely
>> different age group to me.
>
> Rule #1 : Never refuse friendship with someone because they are not a
> young single hot girl.
Fair enough. But [for example] the people I go dancing with are all
decades older than me, and we just have nothing in common. I try to find
things to talk about, but it's really a struggle.
(Then again, finding anything to talk about is a struggle for me. I
guess I'm just too damned boring.)
It just seems everywhere I do, I don't fit in. Hell, even my gaming
clan; they're all gamers. I'm the only actual computer nerd.
> Rule #2 : Act with your friends in a way that would make you attractive
> to girls. Girls are not going to like you if your friends say to them
> "he's really boring, he just moans about work and his life the whole
> time". If you are more positive then they will say "oh you should meet
> Andrew, he's a really good guy". Maybe :-)
Maybe this is why I fail. I mean, let's face it, aside from being a nice
guy with a good heart, I have absolutely no redeeming features. Why
should anybody go to the bother of getting to know me? What's in it for
them? It's not like there's anything worth-while about me...
> You might try joining some activity group to make new friends, some of
> mine use this place in the UK:
>
> http://www.spiceuk.com/home
It's worth a look if nothing else.
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> It just seems everywhere I do, I don't fit in. Hell, even my gaming clan;
> they're all gamers. I'm the only actual computer nerd.
If you think you "don't fit in" just because you're a computer nerd and
they're gamers, then sorry but you're never going to fit in anywhere unless
you go to a computer nerd convention. I guarantee that the number of people
you will meet normally in your life (ie not by going to a convention or
whatever) that want to talk about functional programming languages with you
will be *tiny*. There's nothing wrong with functional programming, it's
just everyone has their own very specific interests, and if you rule out
anyone else then you're going to be very lonely.
> Maybe this is why I fail. I mean, let's face it, aside from being a nice
> guy with a good heart, I have absolutely no redeeming features. Why should
> anybody go to the bother of getting to know me? What's in it for them?
> It's not like there's anything worth-while about me...
Oh I'm sure there is, but if you keep telling everyone you meet that there
isn't, then don't expect anyone to be at all interested in you.
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>> It just seems everywhere I do, I don't fit in. Hell, even my gaming
>> clan; they're all gamers. I'm the only actual computer nerd.
>
> If you think you "don't fit in" just because you're a computer nerd and
> they're gamers, then sorry but you're never going to fit in anywhere.
Actually, when we're gaming, I think I more or less fit in. It's the
face to face stuff where I don't get on so well. But some of the guys
are quite fun; I guess you can't expect to get along with everybody.
What I can't figure out is this: I can't be the only person my age in
the entire city of Milton Keynes. So where the *hell* are the rest of
them? Presumably if I could find them, I'd get along with *some* of them...
> you're going to be very lonely.
Um... I already am?
>> Maybe this is why I fail. I mean, let's face it, aside from being a
>> nice guy with a good heart, I have absolutely no redeeming features.
>> Why should anybody go to the bother of getting to know me? What's in
>> it for them? It's not like there's anything worth-while about me...
>
> Oh I'm sure there is, but if you keep telling everyone you meet that
> there isn't, then don't expect anyone to be at all interested in you.
Ever tried to convince somebody else of something you don't really
believe yourself? It's kinda tricky. :-/
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Invisible <voi### [at] dev null> wrote:
> Maybe this is why I fail. I mean, let's face it, aside from being a nice
> guy with a good heart, I have absolutely no redeeming features. Why
> should anybody go to the bother of getting to know me? What's in it for
> them? It's not like there's anything worth-while about me...
oh, no, NO, NOOO!! not again that self-whipping time!!
Do you drink? Beer at least? Always a good bet for shy guys! Learn the art of
drinking and you're set to go... :D
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nemesis wrote:
> Do you drink? Beer at least? Always a good bet for shy guys! Learn the art of
> drinking and you're set to go... :D
Erm, NO.
Beer tasted God-damned awful! >_<
I drink Archers. :-P
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Invisible <voi### [at] dev null> wrote:
> nemesis wrote:
>
> > Do you drink? Beer at least? Always a good bet for shy guys! Learn the art of
> > drinking and you're set to go... :D
>
> Erm, NO.
>
> Beer tasted God-damned awful! >_<
yeah, I couldn't stand beer in my early ages too. It's taste grew on me at
later years though, as well as legumes, vegetables and walnuts. funky, ain't
it?
> I drink Archers. :-P
no clue. If it's soda, then no deal... :D
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>> I drink Archers. :-P
>
> no clue. If it's soda, then no deal... :D
It's alcoholic, but it's definitely a girl's drink.
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>>> I drink Archers. :-P
>>
>> no clue. If it's soda, then no deal... :D
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> It's alcoholic, but it's definitely a girl's drink.
Peach schnapps to be precise.
I also drink Baileys. Judging from the disapproving look I got from my
uncle, I'm guessing this is also a girls' drink. (Note correct use of
apostrophy.)
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>> It's alcoholic, but it's definitely a girl's drink.
>
> Peach schnapps to be precise.
>
> I also drink Baileys. Judging from the disapproving look I got from my
> uncle, I'm guessing this is also a girls' drink.
What exactly did you drink when those two girls were laughing at you? If
you had an archers or a baileys then that would definitely be a good enough
reason IMO.
> (Note correct use of apostrophy.)
So is beer a men's drink?
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