St. wrote:

> Really Andrew, you should shut your whining and just get 'out there' 
> and then invite me to the wedding when you're done. I'll kiss the bride on 
> your behalf if you're too shy.  ;)

Do you have any *idea* how frustrating it is when you try your damnest 
to "just get out there" and nothing comes of it, and yet people still 
tell you you need to "stop whining and take some action"?

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"Orchid XP v8" <voi### [at] devnull> wrote in message 
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> St. wrote:
>
>> Really Andrew, you should shut your whining and just get 'out there' and 
>> then invite me to the wedding when you're done. I'll kiss the bride on 
>> your behalf if you're too shy.  ;)
>
> Do you have any *idea* how frustrating it is when you try your damnest to 
> "just get out there" and nothing comes of it, and yet people still tell 
> you you need to "stop whining and take some action"?

      Nope.

      ~Steve~


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"Orchid XP v8" <voi### [at] devnull> wrote in message 
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>>> Did you have to use the words "last chance"? :-/
>>>
>>> Seriously - it *already* feels like I had my "last chance" a great many 
>>> years ago and that there is essentially no hope now. :'{
>>
>>    Heh - no hope? :) You haven't moved out yet.
>>
>>     Move out > party > ladies. LOTS of ladies.  ;)
>
> Er, yeah, RIGHT. Because that last party I went to was LOADED with ladies. 
> If by "ladies" you in fact mean "schoolgirls". :-P

     :op Heh, you think of them as 'schoolgirls', but in fact, I bet some of 
them are way ahead of you in the brain department Andrew. I don't mean 
programming, I mean in life. You just don't know it yet, that's all.


>
>>     Seriously, you haven't partied yet, but you're not too old if that 
>> was what you were thinking, trust me on that. Just mix in, it doesn't 
>> matter what age you are.
>
> *thinks about my dad dancing at my cousin's wedding*

   And I bet some young ladies there admired your dad for dancing. Fair play 
to him. I bet they thought he was fun.


>
> Um, yes. Yes it does...

   What did they (the young ladies) think of you Andrew? Did you dance with 
them too? I mean, you were obviously there at the party, so what did you do?

     ~Steve~



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>>>     Move out > party > ladies. LOTS of ladies.  ;)
>> Er, yeah, RIGHT. Because that last party I went to was LOADED with ladies. 
>> If by "ladies" you in fact mean "schoolgirls". :-P
> 
>      :op Heh, you think of them as 'schoolgirls'

Is 13 not "schoolgirl" then?

> but in fact, I bet some of 
> them are way ahead of you in the brain department Andrew.

Cool. I mean, it's not like I already have a massive inferiority complex 
or anything like that...

>    What did they (the young ladies) think of you Andrew? Did you dance with 
> them too? I mean, you were obviously there at the party, so what did you do?

1. I can't dance.

2. At that particular party, there didn't seem to be much point anyway.

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On Thu, 10 Jul 2008 20:04:56 +0100, Orchid XP v8 wrote:

>>> I really thought meeting back up
>>> with him was going to allow me to develop a *real* social life at
>>> last... but no, it's make no difference.
>> 
>> When's the last time you phoned or e-mailed him?  Don't expect other
>> people to do all the work.
> 
> How about "once or twice per week"? Because that's roughly how often
> I've contacted him to arrange to meet up. :-P

Have you actually spoken to him?  Do you know he's not out of town?

>>> Did you have to use the words "last chance"? :-/
>>>
>>> Seriously - it *already* feels like I had my "last chance" a great
>>> many years ago and that there is essentially no hope now. :'{
>> 
>> Gads, we've been over this, Andy - you're what, in your *mid 20s*?  You
>> haven't even HAD a "great many years".
> 
> More like "nearly 30". It just seems the "best years" of my life are all
> a long way behind me now - and they weren't even that great. Not a happy
> thought...

Mid 20's = nearly 30 in my book.  I'm pushing 40 myself.

There's no reason to *predict* that the future will be gloomy.  Being a 
pessimist ain't all it's cracked up to be.

Jim

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On Thu, 10 Jul 2008 20:29:56 +0100, Orchid XP v8 wrote:

> Do you have any *idea* how frustrating it is when you try your damnest
> to "just get out there" and nothing comes of it, and yet people still
> tell you you need to "stop whining and take some action"?

Yes.  I've said before, you remind me of me 15 years ago.  There's a 
reason I've said that.

BTW, you never answered my question about your knowledge with regards to 
identity management....Random thought for the moment, just happened to 
hit my mind again.

Jim

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On Thu, 10 Jul 2008 20:06:54 +0100, Orchid XP v8 wrote:

>>     Seriously, you haven't partied yet, but you're not too old if that
>>     was
>> what you were thinking, trust me on that. Just mix in, it doesn't
>> matter what age you are.
> 
> *thinks about my dad dancing at my cousin's wedding*
> 
> Um, yes. Yes it does...

Was he having a good time?  That's the important thing.  What other 
people think *really* *doesn't* *matter*.  Took me a LONG time to learn 
that lesson.

Jim

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"Orchid XP v8" <voi### [at] devnull> wrote in message 
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>>>>     Move out > party > ladies. LOTS of ladies.  ;)
>>> Er, yeah, RIGHT. Because that last party I went to was LOADED with 
>>> ladies. If by "ladies" you in fact mean "schoolgirls". :-P
>>
>>      :op Heh, you think of them as 'schoolgirls'
>
> Is 13 not "schoolgirl" then?

   Of course 13 is a school girls age. Of course that age group is there at 
the wedding! They're always there.

    Did you spot the 18, 19, 20, 22, year old (or older) in the corner? Did 
you speak to her? (Whether or not you knew she was married, alone, with bf, 
whatever..?)


>
>> but in fact, I bet some of them are way ahead of you in the brain 
>> department Andrew.
>
> Cool. I mean, it's not like I already have a massive inferiority complex 
> or anything like that...

    Gah, cop out.  ;)


>
>>    What did they (the young ladies) think of you Andrew? Did you dance 
>> with them too? I mean, you were obviously there at the party, so what did 
>> you do?
>
> 1. I can't dance.

    EVERYONE CAN DANCE!!! Just wiggle yer legs and arms and head an' you'll 
be fine!  ;)


>
> 2. At that particular party, there didn't seem to be much point anyway.

   Oh, it was a boring party. Well, that figures, I mean, it was a wedding 
after all, and not a 'party' as such.

    I don't blame you for not dancing in this case.

       ~Steve~


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Hooookey, we appear to have our parties crossed here...

1. My cousin's wedding, where my dad decided to dance. I was probably 
one of the youngest people there. (My cosin is quite a bit older than me.)

2. That girl's 18th birthday party. Apparently she brought all her girly 
mates from school - and their parents. Hence lots of people older than 
me, lots of people younger than me, nobody my age. A reasonably fun 
evening none the less though.

Two seperate parties. Yes, I have been to that many. :-P Actually, I've 
been to more than that, if you must know...

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>> How about "once or twice per week"? Because that's roughly how often
>> I've contacted him to arrange to meet up. :-P
> 
> Have you actually spoken to him?  Do you know he's not out of town?

Yeah. I get emails or text messages from him quite often, and I phone 
him now and then. But it seems frustratingly difficult to arrange to 
actually meet up.

Last weekend, we arranged to meet, but then he ate a kebab and spent the 
entire weeking puking.

The weekend before that, we arranged to meet, and on friday we went out 
for "a few drinks", and spent the entire weeking with a hangover.

Next weekend he's going on a trip.

Would you like me to continue?

(And girlie is apparently even more busy, and not too keen on meeting me 
alone it seems...)

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