Gail Shaw wrote:

>> What - the fact that what might have been a beautiful relationship will
>> now never be is "insulting"?
> 
> No, the fact that possibly making a new friend makes you very sad.

That's not what makes me sad. What makes me sad is that I am never going 
to SEE this person. I'll never even know what she looks like.

> How often do you complain that you don't know anyone who like you. Now
> you've got a good chance to change that and, it appears, you're not really
> interested.

There are lots of people I vaguely know over the Internet who I 
communicate with. What I'd really like is to have somebody I can 
physically BE with - lots of the time. This girl may or may not become 
my "friend", but I'm never going to be able to hang out with her. And I 
was so looking forward to it...

-- 
http://blog.orphi.me.uk/

Post a reply to this message

"Orchid XP v3" <voi### [at] devnull> wrote in message
news:46fc11ac$1@news.povray.org...

> That's not what makes me sad. What makes me sad is that I am never going
> to SEE this person. I'll never even know what she looks like.

Ask her to send you a photo

> There are lots of people I vaguely know over the Internet who I
> communicate with. What I'd really like is to have somebody I can
> physically BE with - lots of the time. This girl may or may not become
> my "friend", but I'm never going to be able to hang out with her. And I
> was so looking forward to it...

You have her phone number. That puts her well ahead of most of your internet
acquaintances. Maybe in a year or 2 she'll be back in your area, or maybe
she'll visit the area from time to time. If you let this slip away, you'll
never know.

Post a reply to this message

On Thu, 27 Sep 2007 21:25:38 +0100, Orchid XP v3 wrote:

> I am never going
> to SEE this person. I'll never even know what she looks like.

You don't know what the future holds, so don't count it out.

"Trying to predict the future is a mug's game. But increasingly it's a 
game we all have to play because the world is changing so fast and we 
need to have some sort of idea of what the future's actually going to be 
like because we are going to have to live there, probably next week."

 -- Douglas Adams

Jim

Post a reply to this message

Warp wrote:
> John VanSickle <evi### [at] hotmailcom> wrote:
> 
>>>  I have never understood why people are so obsessed with moving.
>>>Sometimes it feels that not a month goes by without a friend or someone
>>>I know moving. I know some people who have moved at least 4 times in
>>>one single year!
> 
> 
>>Well, when the rent's due and you can't pay it...
> 
> 
>   The solution is to spend the rent money in moving your stuff to
> another place?

For people not given to long-term thinking, that may seem like the 
better solution.  I didn't say it made sense...

Regards,
John

Post a reply to this message

> Yeah. Inbetween her having to finish her PhD in the next 17 days and her 
> employer who might be sending her to Japan on Thursday and she's going on 
> holiday to somewhere else in a few weeks' time and...

Would you really want to be with a girl who was going off to some foreign 
country for 5 days every 2 weeks?  And then the rest of the time spending 
long hours at work?

Post a reply to this message

> I did actually go to the trouble of going to see a finance advisor to 
> see what the story really is. I was expecting him to say that something 
> could be done (after all, that way he gets to sell me a product). But 
> no. Apparently I simply don't earn enough money.

Haha you don't want a girlfriend then, they are quite expensive...

Post a reply to this message

>> Housing prices in the UK are currently astronomical.
>
> Renting an apartment is not an option then? What do other young people 
> your age in the UK do?

1) Rent

2) Lower your expectations of what you can afford to buy.  You haven't been 
working for 20 years like your parents have - you can't get a house like 
theirs.

3) Get a job in a cheaper area so you can get a bigger/nicer house.

Seriously - look at house prices in other parts of the country - you will be 
surprised.  For what I was paying to rent 1/3 of a house in Oxford, my 
sister was paying for a 3-bedroom house!

Post a reply to this message

>> What the others said, plus that essentially you imply that the only 
>> reason you are only interested in girls is when they want to go to bed 
>> with you. Any person, which includes women, which includes this girl,, is 
>> a human being.
>
> *sigh*
>
> Even on povray.off-topic I am misunderstood...

OK, well what you mean is "if you don't want to be my girlfriend then i 
don't want to be friends with you".  You're never going to find a girlfriend 
if you act like that.  Just make friends with her and get to know her.  You 
never know what will come of it.  Maybe after 6 months she will like you so 
much she'll want to move back to be near you.  Or you'll go to a party at 
one of her places and meet this great girl who is one of her best friends. 
Why waste all those opportunities simply because she won't be your 
girlfriend right now?

Post a reply to this message

scott wrote:
>>> What the others said, plus that essentially you imply that the only 
>>> reason you are only interested in girls is when they want to go to 
>>> bed with you. Any person, which includes women, which includes this 
>>> girl,, is a human being.
>>
>> *sigh*
>>
>> Even on povray.off-topic I am misunderstood...
> 
> OK, well what you mean is "if you don't want to be my girlfriend then i 
> don't want to be friends with you".  You're never going to find a 
> girlfriend if you act like that.  Just make friends with her and get to 
> know her.  You never know what will come of it.  Maybe after 6 months 
> she will like you so much she'll want to move back to be near you.  Or 
> you'll go to a party at one of her places and meet this great girl who 
> is one of her best friends. Why waste all those opportunities simply 
> because she won't be your girlfriend right now?
> 
> 

Sound a lot like networking for a job ;-)

I've never looked at it as networking for a girl, but it makes sense.


Tom

Post a reply to this message

scott wrote:

>> *sigh*
>>
>> Even on povray.off-topic I am misunderstood...
> 
> OK, well what you mean is "if you don't want to be my girlfriend then i 
> don't want to be friends with you".

No, that's not what I mean.

-- 
http://blog.orphi.me.uk/

Post a reply to this message