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On 1/5/2014 2:39 AM, Warp wrote:
> Patrick Elliott <kag### [at] gmailcom> wrote:
>> A campus is not the rest of the world, and the statistics "do" differ
>> between there and other places. That tends to happen, when you cram a
>> lot of people, in a specific age group, many of which seem to presume
>> that one purpose of college is to party and get laid, in one place. And,
>> I never said "all", advice was bad advice. What I objected to was most
>> of the stuff you came up with as "advice".
>
> Firstly, if such a study shows that actions can be taken to reduce the
> risk of rape in one community, and that they have a significant effect,
> then it's not unreasonable to deduce that actions can be taken in other
> communities as well. Or do you have actual credible sources that say
> otherwise?
>
And.. if this was true in all cases, there would, I presume, be a) other
studies, and/or b) it wouldn't contradict prior facts?
You are correct that I don't have a study I can quote. The problem is
that one study, by itself, may as well be annecdotal, for all its worth
until properly replicated, there are at least some psychologist who are
putting such studies under fire **precisely** because so much of them
tend to be done on campuses, in the same environment, and often using
subjects who "volunteer", which they can't say for certain isn't already
a biased group, and finally, you can't explain away decades of
statistics, which suggest that some behaviors seem to have no impact, at
all, on such cases, based on one study, of things in one specialized
environment.
> Secondly, I didn't say "they should do this or that". What I said was
> that it's a good thing to try to figure out what could be done to reduce
> the risks, and listed some things that could be studied to see if there
> is some correlation.
>
> What really irks me is when someone comes up and calls the act of actually
> trying to do something with names like "slut shaming". Trying to *help*
> prevent rapes is not victim blaming. Insulting people who do so is
> disgusting.
>
Using the same arguments for what they "should have done", or "didn't
do", or how, "next time you can be more careful by doing these things,
so is partly your fault it happened", however **is**, and that is
precisely what you see, in every news report, every blog post, every
discussion by arm chair experts on what someone did wrong, even if they
don't have the facts, and for all they know, did every single thing on
the list. Its not about what ***you*** intended, or tried to do, its
about how the that "advice" get missed used, the moment someone actually
becomes victim, and how, maybe, some of it isn't a sound as one study
might imply.
I don't think that is wrong to try to help. I wasn't calling the attempt
slut shaming, or victim blaming, things like clothing choice, and the
like ***are*** used for both, all the damn time, which makes binging
them up, as part of a list of options, problematic, even if, in some
specific cases, and/or ways, they may be meaningful. The problem being
precisely that a) they are not specific, b) they may differ, greatly,
depending on the community and its own standards, and c) may not be
meaningful at all, in other contexts.
Basic logic would imply, to use "clothing choice" as the best example of
this problem, that if dressing "provocatively" was the issue, not the
perception, locally to the rape case, of what the hell that even means,
then the prevalence of bikinis and European nude beaches would "both"
show some sort of drastic increases, due to the "provocative" nature of
the dress, or lack there of, compared to "normal" clothing. You might
even find a "statistical connection", by doing your "study" at a bunch
of beaches during Spring Break. After all, its where you can find a huge
number of people in both states, even in the US, and.. well, the
specific conditions, context and environment can't possibly be a factor,
right?
That is precisely why, that specific "advice" is itself possibly way
less useful that it seems. Its purely arbitrary to the local conditions.
Provocative, in Iran, vs. 50 years ago in the US, vs. 99% of the beaches
today, vs. a nudist colony, are **all different**. Are campuses, never
mind communities, supposed to post big signs everyplace, which say,
"This will keep you safe from the nuts, while this other picture will
get you attacked"? Are they supposed to just "know", or do you set some
arbitrary standard of "safe", and tell them all to stick to that, while
calling all the ones that get raped anyway, "anomalous statistics".
That is the problem with some of the "advice". Its only meaningful, if
at all, in context, and even then, no one has a damn clue what the
context is in any given place. Even when the context is, "Women can only
be protected by wearing a sack, which doesn't even let you see their
eyes.", it happens anyway, too often, and, if anything, the excuses for
why they did something wrong, and the men didn't, just get worse and
worse, the closer you get to that.
It also doesn't help when you have polar opposite statistics - like the
one person posting on one of those blogs, or maybe someplace else where
the subject came up, who stated that they had been to many parties,
gotten drunk enough to pass out at a few of them, but never been raped,
**ever** despite horrible choices, over drinking, and doing every single
thing wrong, but she knew a guy who had been raped (the definition here
being without consent, or even, in his case, awareness), several times,
by woman, at some of the same parties, because *he* passed out on the couch.
No, what gives women the idea that they are helpless victims is doing
everything "right" according to these lists, not being believed, having
people try to claim that they made it up, having the cops treat them
like shit, then their friends, and other people around them, then, if
they do get to court, going through it all over again, and, all the
time, being asked, "Did you say no?", "Who where you with?", "What did
you do?", "How long was your dress?", "What else where you wearing?",
and on, and on.
By all means, give advice. But, make sure its advice that actually means
something. As am sure I said in the prior post, your "intent" isn't as
important as whether or not it was good advice. And.. there are
thousands of victims, decades of statistics, whole websites dedicated to
the facts, and myths, or rape and what, if anything, increases, and
decreases the risks, and you have... one study, done on a campus, a
practice even psychologists are questioning the value of, as something
you can extrapolate real data, about any other environment, from.
If I somehow unintentionally implied that you where either slut shaming,
or victim blaming.. then, I definitely apologize for the former, but..
the latter can be done "accidentally" by simply failing to recognize
that what is "advice" to someone trying to "help", is victim blaming to
people who are only hearing, "Well, here goes the usual list 'advice'
everyone gives, after the fact.", or even an attempt at making excuses
for the perpetrator, if its, in fact, given in the context of someone
who "has" had it happen to them.
Given that this is precisely how it gets used.. out of the context of
saying, "Such and such study says...", and still risking getting ripped
to shreds by women who have heard it all before, and have good reason to
think its bull, isn't it just "possibly" detrimental to give advice that
the victims themselves are likely to turn around and say, "Great, yet
another one that has no clue what they are talking about!"?
I really suggest you actually read the accounts of the people that have
gone through it, what they got told, what they did, or didn't do, what
advice did, or didn't work, and what they, not some study, think the
problem(s) really are. That would be a good way to do something useful.
Using one single study, whose advice is practically a bumper sticker for
everything people say anyway, and never helps... *that*, I tend to
suspect, is way less helpful that you hope.
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