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Orchid XP v8 escreveu:
> Well... I keep feeling all depressed because I suck at talking to people
> and stuff. But you know what? One week I spent 3 hours chatting to an
> old friend. And the next week I chatted to a complete stranger and even
> got her phone number. That doesn't sound like failure, that sounds
> like... well, SUCCESS, actually. So maybe I *don't* suck at talking to
> people - maybe it's just that the people I usually have around me are
> arseholes?
Most probably, yes.
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On Tue, 28 Apr 2009 21:03:12 +0100, Orchid XP v8 wrote:
> Darren New wrote:
>
>> Sounds like "My boyfriend is being a pain in the butt, but not as much
>> a pain in the butt as finding an entirely new boyfriend."
>
> Ooo, maybe I could become that friend she trusts and tells all her
> problems to, but never actually dates? :-S
Maybe. That can be educational, but also can be very frustrating.
BTDTGTTS.
Jim
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On Tue, 28 Apr 2009 21:02:32 +0100, Orchid XP v8 wrote:
> So maybe I *don't* suck at talking to people - maybe it's just that the
> people I usually have around me are arseholes?
Result! What have we been trying to tell you for the last how-many-years?
Jim
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>> Ooo, maybe I could become that friend she trusts and tells all her
>> problems to, but never actually dates? :-S
>
> Maybe. That can be educational, but also can be very frustrating.
Yes. And given the way my life works, that's where I suspect I'll end
up. :-/
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http://www.zazzle.com/MathematicalOrchid*
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>> So maybe I *don't* suck at talking to people - maybe it's just that the
>> people I usually have around me are arseholes?
>
> Result! What have we been trying to tell you for the last how-many-years?
That I can't spell?
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http://www.zazzle.com/MathematicalOrchid*
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On Thu, 30 Apr 2009 18:45:22 +0100, Orchid XP v8 wrote:
>>> Ooo, maybe I could become that friend she trusts and tells all her
>>> problems to, but never actually dates? :-S
>>
>> Maybe. That can be educational, but also can be very frustrating.
>
> Yes. And given the way my life works, that's where I suspect I'll end
> up. :-/
Well, if anything we can always count on you being pessimistic about
life. ;-)
Jim
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On Thu, 30 Apr 2009 18:45:41 +0100, Orchid XP v8 wrote:
>>> So maybe I *don't* suck at talking to people - maybe it's just that
>>> the people I usually have around me are arseholes?
>>
>> Result! What have we been trying to tell you for the last
>> how-many-years?
>
> That I can't spell?
No, the other thing.... ;-)
Jim
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>> Yes. And given the way my life works, that's where I suspect I'll end
>> up. :-/
>
> Well, if anything we can always count on you being pessimistic about
> life. ;-)
Well that's not entirely true. As you may have noticed, when something
actually goes right for once, I suddenly become very optimistic.
(Perhaps excessively so.) It's just that for the most part, my life is a
failure, so usually I'm pessimistic.
--
http://blog.orphi.me.uk/
http://www.zazzle.com/MathematicalOrchid*
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On Thu, 30 Apr 2009 20:13:41 +0100, Orchid XP v8 wrote:
>>> Yes. And given the way my life works, that's where I suspect I'll end
>>> up. :-/
>>
>> Well, if anything we can always count on you being pessimistic about
>> life. ;-)
>
> Well that's not entirely true. As you may have noticed, when something
> actually goes right for once, I suddenly become very optimistic.
You need to make it less "sudden" and more a way of being. While it is
true that an optimist is likely to be disappointed and a pessimist
surprised, having a more positive outlook tends to be better for one's
mental health.
> (Perhaps excessively so.) It's just that for the most part, my life is a
> failure, so usually I'm pessimistic.
See, you need to stop with statements like "my life is a failure".
That's what we've been saying. And I won't bore you with things like
"you've got a roof over your head, you eat regularly, and you've got a
paying job - and that's much better than a lot of people have" because
that's not generally helpful.
But at the same time, you maybe should admit once in a while that while
you think your life sucks, compared to people whose lives really suck,
you don't have it so bad.
Jim
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>> Well that's not entirely true. As you may have noticed, when something
>> actually goes right for once, I suddenly become very optimistic.
>
> You need to make it less "sudden" and more a way of being.
Easier said than done.
> having a more positive outlook tends to be better for one's
> mental health.
I'm not disagreeing.
>> It's just that for the most part, my life is a
>> failure, so usually I'm pessimistic.
>
> See, you need to stop with statements like "my life is a failure".
> That's what we've been saying.
And what *I* have been saying is that when you repeatedly try to do
things and are greeted only with failure, it makes it really, *really*
hard to remain positive.
Most people fail sometimes, and succeed sometimes. Unfortunately, I fail
almost *all* the time. This is extremely depressing.
(That's probably why I get so hyperactive on the rare occasions where
something actually works...)
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