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Apparently she hasn't been answering my calls because she's been in
Japan for the last few days, and she accidentally left her phone on her
desk at work. (She has a desk???) But she's back now, and only has 11
days to hand in her PhD thesis.
And then she's going to the Dominican Republic for a holiday. For a month.
On the other hand, apparently the moving house has fallen through, and
since it's now the start of "the build season" she can't be bothered to
look for anywhere else right now, so she's staying put. (But for how
long? Hmm.)
Anyway, she just phoned me, so at least now I finally know what her
voice sounds like. Indeed, talking to her on the phone, I am left with
the very strong feeling that I most definitely want to have *a lot* more
to do with this girl. I don't know if I'll ever get into her pants, but
she's so lovely it'd be great just to be friends... if I can ever get
hold of the girl! :-/
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I rolled eyes just after seeing the message subject, while waiting for
the message itself to load.
Anyway, sounds like good news :)
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"Orchid XP v3" <voi### [at] dev null> wrote in message
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> Anyway, she just phoned me, so at least now I finally know what her voice
> sounds like. Indeed, talking to her on the phone, I am left with the very
> strong feeling that I most definitely want to have *a lot* more to do with
> this girl. I don't know if I'll ever get into her pants, but she's so
> lovely it'd be great just to be friends... if I can ever get hold of the
> girl! :-/
Wooah. One of the sentences in that last paragraph is SO wrong Andrew.
Re-read it as if 'she' was reading it.
~Steve~
>
> --
> http://blog.orphi.me.uk/
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On Mon, 01 Oct 2007 20:21:18 +0100, St. wrote:
> Wooah. One of the sentences in that last paragraph is SO wrong
> Andrew.
> Re-read it as if 'she' was reading it.
I wasn't the only one thinking that.....
Jim
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"Jim Henderson" <nos### [at] nospamcom> a écrit dans le message de news:
470152c1$1@news.povray.org...
> On Mon, 01 Oct 2007 20:21:18 +0100, St. wrote:
>
>> Wooah. One of the sentences in that last paragraph is SO wrong
>> Andrew.
>> Re-read it as if 'she' was reading it.
>
> I wasn't the only one thinking that.....
>
+1
Marc
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St. wrote:
> Wooah. One of the sentences in that last paragraph is SO wrong Andrew.
> Re-read it as if 'she' was reading it.
Hmm. I think you're taking me a tad too seriously...
(Knowing the girl in question, she'd probably just laugh. She works with
petrol-heads all day, after all...)
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On Mon, 01 Oct 2007 21:59:43 +0100, Orchid XP v3 wrote:
> St. wrote:
>
>> Wooah. One of the sentences in that last paragraph is SO wrong
>> Andrew.
>> Re-read it as if 'she' was reading it.
>
> Hmm. I think you're taking me a tad too seriously...
>
> (Knowing the girl in question, she'd probably just laugh. She works with
> petrol-heads all day, after all...)
We're just saying it's a matter of presentation, but still, if it's
something she'd laugh off, that's less of a problem. :-)
Jim
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"Orchid XP v3" <voi### [at] devnull> wrote in message
news:47015fa2$1@news.povray.org...
> St. wrote:
>
>> Wooah. One of the sentences in that last paragraph is SO wrong
>> Andrew. Re-read it as if 'she' was reading it.
>
> Hmm. I think you're taking me a tad too seriously...
Hmm... Good luck.
~Steve~
> --
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Why does this remind me of densha otoko?
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- Warp
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Orchid XP v3 wrote:
> St. wrote:
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>> Wooah. One of the sentences in that last paragraph is SO wrong
>> Andrew. Re-read it as if 'she' was reading it.
>
> Hmm. I think you're taking me a tad too seriously...
No, we just care for our mascot. Which reminds me...
did you already propose yourself as a mascot for their F1 team?
You do have a reputation in that area.
>
> (Knowing the girl in question, she'd probably just laugh.
Don't be too sure about that...
> She works with petrol-heads all day, after all...)
...there may be a reason for her not having a boyfriend among those.
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andrel wrote:
>> Hmm. I think you're taking me a tad too seriously...
> No, we just care for our mascot.
Ah, I *see*... So the constant criticising and belittling is becuase you
guys actually *like* me? I was confused about that part...
> Which reminds me...
> did you already propose yourself as a mascot for their F1 team?
> You do have a reputation in that area.
LOL!
>> (Knowing the girl in question, she'd probably just laugh.
> Don't be too sure about that...
>> She works with petrol-heads all day, after all...)
> ...there may be a reason for her not having a boyfriend among those.
Yeah, I was wondering about that... Clearly very extravert and
self-confident girl, bursting with attractiveness, spends all day
working with blokes... and she's... single? WTH??
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Orchid XP v3 wrote:
> andrel wrote:
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>>> Hmm. I think you're taking me a tad too seriously...
>
>> No, we just care for our mascot.
>
> Ah, I *see*... So the constant criticising and belittling is because you
> guys actually *like* me?
yes. (The fact that you might stop bothering us when you have finally
found a nice girl might play a role too.)
> I was confused about that part...
>
We said so time and time again, but if you did not believe us then, why
would you now?
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andrel wrote:
>> Ah, I *see*... So the constant criticising and belittling is because
>> you guys actually *like* me?
> yes. (The fact that you might stop bothering us when you have finally
> found a nice girl might play a role too.)
And to think I was worried about this:
http://www.xkcd.com/306/
Hey, wait...! o_O
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On Tue, 02 Oct 2007 20:51:54 +0100, Orchid XP v3 wrote:
>> No, we just care for our mascot.
>
> Ah, I *see*... So the constant criticising and belittling is becuase you
> guys actually *like* me? I was confused about that part...
Well, speaking for myself, it's never my intention to criticise or
belittle you - but I can see how maybe it comes across that way sometimes.
It's just that when you make what (with a little more experience) is
possibly a critical mistake, I at least am trying to speak up and say
"been there, done that, it doesn't work (or didn't for me)" emphatically
enough.
I was talking with my wife about this yesterday or the day before,
actually, and it occurred to me that you're probably not at the point yet
where you've made the mistakes that some of the rest of us have already
learned from (like the comment about "getting into her pants"), but that
maybe you say things like that here to see what the reaction is because
this is a "safe" place for that kind of experimentation.
Or maybe not.
But either way, don't stop trying things out. That's IMHO the best way
to learn.
As for why she's still single - some people are strongly averse to dating
in the workplace, because if you break up, that makes it more difficult -
you still see them every day, even possibly have to work with them every
day. Some people aren't comfortable with that thought or idea.
Some employers expressly forbid dating coworkers - though it's not as
common now as it used to be, I think; my dad's first wife was a woman he
worked with, and they had to elope to get married - couldn't let anyone
in the office know they were dating. She quit once they got married.
When I started working for Novell, though, there was a couple in the
training sales department who were married (and, coincidentally, also
shared the same surname as I - but no relation).
Some people who are extroverted also like having a relationship outside
of the environment where they "have" to be "on" all the time; a good
friend of mine in the UK is very extroverted when he's with a group of
people, but when he's with family (and we are fortunate enough that he
considers us family) he is a lot less outspoken - and he's commented that
it's nice to not have to be "on" all the time.
Jim
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On Tue, 02 Oct 2007 19:04:14 -0400, Jim Henderson wrote:
> But either way, don't stop trying things out. That's IMHO the best way
> to learn.
Let me rephrase - trying things out is the second best way to learn, but
the most effective way to learn.
The best way to learn is to learn from other people's mistakes - but
often times the lessons of other people's mistakes don't stick with you
as well as your own.
Jim
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Jim Henderson wrote:
> I was talking with my wife about this yesterday or the day before,
> actually, and it occurred to me that you're probably not at the point yet
> where you've made the mistakes that some of the rest of us have already
> learned from (like the comment about "getting into her pants"), but that
> maybe you say things like that here to see what the reaction is because
> this is a "safe" place for that kind of experimentation.
>
> Or maybe not.
Actually I was exaggerating, but anyway... :-.
--
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On Wed, 03 Oct 2007 21:54:06 +0100, Orchid XP v3 wrote:
> Jim Henderson wrote:
>
>> I was talking with my wife about this yesterday or the day before,
>> actually, and it occurred to me that you're probably not at the point
>> yet where you've made the mistakes that some of the rest of us have
>> already learned from (like the comment about "getting into her pants"),
>> but that maybe you say things like that here to see what the reaction
>> is because this is a "safe" place for that kind of experimentation.
>>
>> Or maybe not.
>
> Actually I was exaggerating, but anyway... :-.
Well, either way... :-)
Jim
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Orchid XP v3 wrote:
> Anyway, she just phoned me, so at least now I finally know what her
Woah, wait, what happened? Clearly I've been away from this group for too
many weeks and missed something important...
Someone fill me in!
Lance.
thezone - thezone.firewave.com.au
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Lance Birch wrote:
> Orchid XP v3 wrote:
>> Anyway, she just phoned me, so at least now I finally know what her
>
> Woah, wait, what happened? Clearly I've been away from this group for
> too many weeks and missed something important...
>
> Someone fill me in!
Mascot complains about not meeting girl, Group attempts to cheer Mascot
up, Mascot meets girl, Mascot feels he has a chance with girl, Mascot
talks about girl.
Concise enough?
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Mike Raiford wrote:
> Lance Birch wrote:
>> Orchid XP v3 wrote:
>>> Anyway, she just phoned me, so at least now I finally know what her
>>
>> Woah, wait, what happened? Clearly I've been away from this group for
>> too many weeks and missed something important...
>>
>> Someone fill me in!
>
> Mascot complains about not meeting girl, Group attempts to cheer Mascot
> up, Mascot meets girl, Mascot feels he has a chance with girl, Mascot
> talks about girl.
>
> Concise enough?
Yep, that pretty much says everything I need to know :D
Lance.
thezone - thezone.firewave.com.au
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Lance Birch wrote:
> Woah, wait, what happened? Clearly I've been away from this group for
> too many weeks and missed something important...
>
> Someone fill me in!
I've found a girl who seems extremely nice, but is also increadibly
busy. If she's ever not busy for long enough, this may or may not become
a beautiful relationship... And that's roughly as much as I know.
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Orchid XP v3 <voi### [at] devnull> wrote:
> I've found a girl who seems extremely nice, but is also increadibly
> busy. If she's ever not busy for long enough, this may or may not become
> a beautiful relationship...
Do you really want a relationship with a person who is always busy and
constantly travelling?
IIRC you hate travelling at an almost pathological level.
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Lance Birch escribió:
> Orchid XP v3 wrote:
>> Anyway, she just phoned me, so at least now I finally know what her
>
> Woah, wait, what happened? Clearly I've been away from this group for
> too many weeks and missed something important...
>
> Someone fill me in!
>
> Lance.
>
> thezone - thezone.firewave.com.au
Full story is on the "Virtual Insanity" thread, if you're interested.
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Warp wrote:
<snip>
> IIRC you hate travelling at an almost pathological level.
For some reason that made me laugh out loud...
Lance.
thezone - thezone.firewave.com.au
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Nicolas Alvarez wrote:
> Lance Birch escribió:
>> Orchid XP v3 wrote:
>>> Anyway, she just phoned me, so at least now I finally know what her
>>
>> Woah, wait, what happened? Clearly I've been away from this group for
>> too many weeks and missed something important...
>>
>> Someone fill me in!
>>
>> Lance.
>>
>> thezone - thezone.firewave.com.au
>
> Full story is on the "Virtual Insanity" thread, if you're interested.
Hmm... that looks like a big thread. It will have to wait until after I
get some sleep I suppose (it's now 4:45 AM here)... hmm!
Lance.
thezone - thezone.firewave.com.au
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Orchid XP v3 wrote:
> Lance Birch wrote:
>
>> Woah, wait, what happened? Clearly I've been away from this group for
>> too many weeks and missed something important...
>>
>> Someone fill me in!
>
> I've found a girl who seems extremely nice, but is also increadibly
> busy. If she's ever not busy for long enough, this may or may not become
> a beautiful relationship... And that's roughly as much as I know.
Hmm, well... good luck. I have a girl story too, actually, but it kind of
didn't end well.
But for now, need sleep! *wanders off in the darkness and flops into bed*
Keep us posted... (as if I have to ask)
Lance.
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"Lance Birch" wrote:
> Orchid XP v3 wrote:
>> I've found a girl who seems extremely nice, but is also increadibly busy.
>> If she's ever not busy for long enough, this may or may not become a
>> beautiful relationship... And that's roughly as much as I know.
>
> Hmm, well... good luck. I have a girl story too, actually, but it kind of
> didn't end well.
Do post, if you feel like sharing. The bad ending ones are the ones people
actually care to read anyway.
It might be different in Andrews case - when he some day finally have a good
ended story about a girl to tell, there will probably be a reaction, but
only because "Andrew's missing love" has become a soap here, so the climatic
ending is highly anticipated. A conflict is a good story, resoluted in the
end or not, but a good ending without a prior established conflict is not...
Rune
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Rune wrote:
> "Lance Birch" wrote:
>> Orchid XP v3 wrote:
>>> I've found a girl who seems extremely nice, but is also increadibly busy.
>>> If she's ever not busy for long enough, this may or may not become a
>>> beautiful relationship... And that's roughly as much as I know.
>> Hmm, well... good luck. I have a girl story too, actually, but it kind of
>> didn't end well.
>
> Do post, if you feel like sharing. The bad ending ones are the ones people
> actually care to read anyway.
>
> It might be different in Andrews case - when he some day finally have a good
> ended story about a girl to tell, there will probably be a reaction, but
> only because "Andrew's missing love" has become a soap here, so the climatic
> ending is highly anticipated. A conflict is a good story, resoluted in the
> end or not, but a good ending without a prior established conflict is not...
Hmm... that's a good observation.
Well, for me... I won't post the whole story, but a quick summary is that
a girl asked me out (yes you did read that correctly, a girl... asked...
*me*... out! Me! Asked me out!%$@). Don't get too excited though,
because things ended in disappointment for everyone.
Some back story: When I occasionally head out of town for the weekend to
visit my brother with my parents we often go to a certain café to have
lunch. It's kind of like a tradition now - the food there is great, and
we've gotten to know the owner quite well (as not only have we now been
going there for years, but coincidentally we used to visit another
business that they ran many years ago as well). So, we're treated like
family there and know the staff well.
A few months ago the owner, while we were talking about the fact that my
brother and I don't have girlfriends, joked to me that one of the staff
there (the girl in question) had said that I was "kind of cute". It was a
passing comment and I didn't really think much more of it.
Time went by and, unbeknownst to me, this girl had apparently been
considering asking me out for quite some time (!) and it had become a
running inside-joke with the staff there every time we visited. They had
been joking with her and encouraging her to ask me out, and she had been
becoming increasing more nervous about doing so. Last weekend the plot
thickened considerably. Apparently the previous time we'd been there
(several weeks earlier), she had seen us come in from their second nearby
café (they own two, the main café, and a second smaller terrace café about
80 metres away) and run from the smaller café to the main café to try to
serve us so that she could ask me out :o But it wasn't to be, because the
owner had started serving us already, so that was the end of that. Until
last weekend, when we visited again, and this time she was there.
We ordered as usual and went and found a table, and when our coffees were
delivered the guy made a particular point of my coffee saying "and this
coffee is especially for you". I didn't really know what he was talking
about until I decided to take a sip and upon lifting up the cup found a
tiny envelope under it on the saucer. You can see where this is going...
heh. I opened it up, being watched closely now by my family (and, they
later told me, all of the staff) and sure enough it was a note from her
asking me out, with her phone number!
I nearly fell off my chair.
Now I'm going to cut to the chase; she's pretty (although not really my
type - but she likes me so who cares), she's bubbly and enthusiastic,
she's my age... but...
I'm in a very strange point in my life right now, and a relationship would
be an irresponsible thing to enter into, for her and for me, and this is
what I ended up telling her.
Disappointed at how this story is going now? And that's how I'm sure she
felt, after picking up the courage to ask someone out like that, and for
how long she's had this crush. And it's how my family felt too, because
they'd instantly become wrapped up in the excitement of the moment as
well. I'm sure the other staff, after hearing how things turned out, felt
disappointed for her as well. And it's how I felt, because the most
painful feeling is knowing that you've let everyone down. In fact it's a
horrible, unimaginably bad feeling, one that hollows you out and leaves
you feeling like a fool.
So... that's the story so far. It's going to be interesting next time we
go there... interesting, and uncomfortable. The reasons for not wanting a
relationship right now are complex (but they are very good reasons; ones
not arrived at by accident or impulse), and I don't really want to go into
them here, but that's how it is :/ I explained them to my family and to
her though, which was a difficult thing for me to do, but necessary. I
think everyone understood then, but things are now very strange.
.. I don't know how to finish this post, because I suppose the saga isn't
really over yet! But there you have it, that's my story.
Lance.
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Lance Birch wrote:
> We ordered as usual and went and found a table, and when our coffees
> were delivered the guy made a particular point of my coffee saying "and
> this coffee is especially for you". I didn't really know what he was
> talking about until I decided to take a sip and upon lifting up the cup
> found a tiny envelope under it on the saucer. You can see where this is
> going... heh. I opened it up, being watched closely now by my family
> (and, they later told me, all of the staff) and sure enough it was a
> note from her asking me out, with her phone number!
>
> I nearly fell off my chair.
Hahahahah!
0WNERSHIP!
Man, that's just far out...
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"Orchid XP v3" <voi### [at] devnull> wrote in message
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So, where are you up to with your girl? Is she back yet? Did you text her
saying that you would like to take her out for a nice meal on her return?
~Steve~
> --
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Aww, such a sweet story though. Taking her time building up courage and
delivering a note all "Amélie style" and all... Too bad about that strange
point in your life, whatever it is. If you would really have liked to go on
a date with her, I hope you didn't take the responsibility issue too
serious. I mean, you shouldn't break promises, but if you make your
situation clear to her and treat her with respect, it might not have hurt
going on a few dates, even if you know you couldn't commit to a lasting
relationship. I know some people will disagree with me on this one, but
sometimes seizing the day right now is more important than considering the
future, if you want to fully live life. But then, I don't know if you
actually did go on some dates. The story's a bit fuzzy there, but that's all
right. :)
In any case, I hope the thought about this sweet girl actually being so
interested in you for a long time brings a little warmth to you, even if
things didn't end perfectly.
Rune
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St. wrote:
> So, where are you up to with your girl? Is she back yet? Did you text her
> saying that you would like to take her out for a nice meal on her return?
*Hopefully* I will be meeting up with her next weekend.
At least, I *really* hope so, because directly after that she's going to
"dominican republic" for a month. ("Holiday".)
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Lance Birch wrote:
> Rune wrote:
>> "Lance Birch" wrote:
>>> Orchid XP v3 wrote:
>>>> I've found a girl who seems extremely nice, but is also increadibly
>>>> busy. If she's ever not busy for long enough, this may or may not
>>>> become a beautiful relationship... And that's roughly as much as I
>>>> know.
>>> Hmm, well... good luck. I have a girl story too, actually, but it
>>> kind of didn't end well.
>>
>> Do post, if you feel like sharing. The bad ending ones are the ones
>> people actually care to read anyway.
>>
>> It might be different in Andrews case - when he some day finally have
>> a good ended story about a girl to tell, there will probably be a
>> reaction, but only because "Andrew's missing love" has become a soap
>> here, so the climatic ending is highly anticipated. A conflict is a
>> good story, resoluted in the end or not, but a good ending without a
>> prior established conflict is not...
>
> Hmm... that's a good observation.
>
> Well, for me... I won't post the whole story, but a quick summary is
> that a girl asked me out (yes you did read that correctly, a girl...
> asked... *me*... out! Me! Asked me out!%$@). Don't get too excited
> though, because things ended in disappointment for everyone.
>
> Some back story: When I occasionally head out of town for the weekend
> to visit my brother with my parents we often go to a certain café to
> have lunch. It's kind of like a tradition now - the food there is
> great, and we've gotten to know the owner quite well (as not only have
> we now been going there for years, but coincidentally we used to visit
> another business that they ran many years ago as well). So, we're
> treated like family there and know the staff well.
>
> A few months ago the owner, while we were talking about the fact that my
> brother and I don't have girlfriends, joked to me that one of the staff
> there (the girl in question) had said that I was "kind of cute". It was
> a passing comment and I didn't really think much more of it.
>
> Time went by and, unbeknownst to me, this girl had apparently been
> considering asking me out for quite some time (!) and it had become a
> running inside-joke with the staff there every time we visited. They
> had been joking with her and encouraging her to ask me out, and she had
> been becoming increasing more nervous about doing so. Last weekend the
> plot thickened considerably. Apparently the previous time we'd been
> there (several weeks earlier), she had seen us come in from their second
> nearby café (they own two, the main café, and a second smaller terrace
> café about 80 metres away) and run from the smaller café to the main
> café to try to serve us so that she could ask me out :o But it wasn't
> to be, because the owner had started serving us already, so that was the
> end of that. Until last weekend, when we visited again, and this time
> she was there.
>
> We ordered as usual and went and found a table, and when our coffees
> were delivered the guy made a particular point of my coffee saying "and
> this coffee is especially for you". I didn't really know what he was
> talking about until I decided to take a sip and upon lifting up the cup
> found a tiny envelope under it on the saucer. You can see where this is
> going... heh. I opened it up, being watched closely now by my family
> (and, they later told me, all of the staff) and sure enough it was a
> note from her asking me out, with her phone number!
>
> I nearly fell off my chair.
>
> Now I'm going to cut to the chase; she's pretty (although not really my
> type - but she likes me so who cares), she's bubbly and enthusiastic,
> she's my age... but...
>
> I'm in a very strange point in my life right now, and a relationship
> would be an irresponsible thing to enter into, for her and for me, and
> this is what I ended up telling her.
>
> Disappointed at how this story is going now? And that's how I'm sure
> she felt, after picking up the courage to ask someone out like that, and
> for how long she's had this crush. And it's how my family felt too,
> because they'd instantly become wrapped up in the excitement of the
> moment as well. I'm sure the other staff, after hearing how things
> turned out, felt disappointed for her as well. And it's how I felt,
> because the most painful feeling is knowing that you've let everyone
> down. In fact it's a horrible, unimaginably bad feeling, one that
> hollows you out and leaves you feeling like a fool.
>
> So... that's the story so far. It's going to be interesting next time
> we go there... interesting, and uncomfortable. The reasons for not
> wanting a relationship right now are complex (but they are very good
> reasons; ones not arrived at by accident or impulse), and I don't really
> want to go into them here, but that's how it is :/ I explained them to
> my family and to her though, which was a difficult thing for me to do,
> but necessary. I think everyone understood then, but things are now
> very strange.
>
> ... I don't know how to finish this post, because I suppose the saga
> isn't really over yet! But there you have it, that's my story.
>
> Lance.
>
> thezone - thezone.firewave.com.au
Hey Andrew.... I heard about this little cafe with a cute employee....
if things don't work for Lance it might be worth considering trying all
sorts of coffee flavors.....
then again....
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Tom Austin wrote:
> Hey Andrew.... I heard about this little cafe with a cute employee....
>
> if things don't work for Lance it might be worth considering trying all
> sorts of coffee flavors.....
>
> then again....
LOL :)
Lance.
thezone - thezone.firewave.com.au
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Rune wrote:
> Aww, such a sweet story though. Taking her time building up courage and
> delivering a note all "Amélie style" and all... Too bad about that strange
> point in your life, whatever it is. If you would really have liked to go on
> a date with her, I hope you didn't take the responsibility issue too
> serious. I mean, you shouldn't break promises, but if you make your
> situation clear to her and treat her with respect, it might not have hurt
> going on a few dates, even if you know you couldn't commit to a lasting
> relationship. I know some people will disagree with me on this one, but
> sometimes seizing the day right now is more important than considering the
> future, if you want to fully live life. But then, I don't know if you
> actually did go on some dates. The story's a bit fuzzy there, but that's all
> right. :)
No we didn't... Another part of the problem was that she'd assumed I lived
with my brother there, but in reality I live a 4 hour drive away. But I
know what you mean about seizing the day, and if I'd really been 'into'
her then I probably would have gone on a date. Once things settle down a
bit I'll probably get in touch again and might go out with her somewhere
just to make up for the way things happened (my brother wants me to make
it a double date - get her to bring a lady friend along for him!). The
logistics of being where I am make it not as straight-forward though, even
without all of the other stuff (which is far more complex than what I've
mentioned here, but with time will become less so).
> In any case, I hope the thought about this sweet girl actually being so
> interested in you for a long time brings a little warmth to you, even if
> things didn't end perfectly.
Oh, it does; it's very flattering! It's not often (at least not for me!)
that someone tells you're cute and that they like you :O In fact I don't
recall that ever happening to me before, and in general I can't think of
any girl that has asked out a guy... it's always been the other way around.
Life is a funny thing...
Lance.
thezone - thezone.firewave.com.au
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