On 08/08/2010 04:59 AM, Warp wrote:
>
>    When a man tries to be nice to a woman, the motive must be sex. When a
> man listens to a woman, shares feelings and emotions, that is, he wants
> to be a good friend to the woman, the motive must be sex. When a man is
> courteus to a woman, shows respect and has good manners, the motive must
> be sex. You talk as if all men who do any of this consider women to be
> just sentient sex toys which must be conquered by whatever social and
> psychological means are necessary.

The original author feels *exactly* that way (minus the part about 
sharing feelings and emotions [this type only does so when he feels it's 
expedient]). There are a lot of people out there who, due to some 
psychosis or Aspergers or their just being pricks, see others (not just 
women) as sentient objects which can be controlled with the correct input.

A person like this may honestly believe that he's just being nice, but 
the premise under which he operates isn't very nice at all. Advise him 
to be honest with her and he'll instead give her a speech about the 
importance of honesty. Advise him to be forthright, and he'll instead 
try to convince her of his forthrightness. He'll never abandon his 
premise because he's an @55hole.

And of course other girls will tease a friend for spending time around a 
guy like this; Guys like this come across as creepy to most people. They 
are creepy. They don't have true friends, because it's impossible to 
obligate someone into true friendship.

  -Shay

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