On Tue, 04 May 2010 15:00:34 -0400, Warp wrote:

> Where did you conjure this "stupidity" thing
>   all
> of a sudden?

You imply it when you say "I've explained it over and over again and I'm 
not going to continue to repeat myself".  The undertone there is "if 
you're too stupid to understand it, I'm not going to try any more".

My idea of communication is that instead of continuing to REPEAT 
something that is clearly not being understood, you instead start 
attacking and implying (perhaps unintentionally) that either the reader 
is too stupid to understand you OR you accuse them of twisting what 
you're saying into something that isn't what you're saying.

When I engage in these conversations with you, Warp, it's never ever ever 
ever EVER with the intention of "twisting your words".  It's with the 
intention of trying to understand what you're saying.  But you utilize 
the English language well enough that I often forget that you're not a 
native speaker, and then you engage in such forceful tactics that you 
come across as arrogant and telling the people you're talking with that 
they're just too dumb to understand what you're trying to say.

Instead of trying to explain, you then get all defensive and blame 
everyone else.  Nothing's *ever* your fault, apparently, when you say 
something and nobody understands you.  It's always someone else's fault.

And when we try to explain to you our point of view, you then start 
saying "well, what's wrong with my point of view" in a way that comes 
across (perhaps unintentionally) as "if you're too stupid to see what I'm 
saying, I'm afraid I can't help you".

Jim

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