"stbenge" <not### [at] hotmailcom> schreef in bericht 
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> Apology accepted :) I'm sorry to you as well, for practically accusing you 
> of making me feel bad. It just seems like everybody has been a little too 
> critical of other people around here these days. It gets to a point where 
> it's like everybody is trying to make me feel bad... but it must be my 
> mind set.

Well, I should have used a couple more smileys I think  :-) I got carried 
away (which happens once in a while...)

You know Sam, there seem to be periods when people seem to be more nervous 
and tend to come over harsher than they maybe want to in the first place. It 
has been said here before, but the absence of body language makes things 
more tricky, so what evolves into an argument would not have done so in the 
physical presence of the speakers. And where you are concerned, don't feel 
bad at all! You are doing absolutely great things and are an inspiration to 
many of us.
>
> I can understand how it feels to not be a native speaker. Even though I 
> grew up in America, I was told constantly as a child that, "kids are to be 
> seen and not heard." This screwed up my ability to communicate well and 
> I've been overcompensating for it all my life. Sometimes I truly feel 
> alien...

Yes, that is really sad. I fully understand, although my personal experience 
was not as strong as yours apparently and a bit different (I grew up in the 
shadow of an older brother). Overcompensating is not always a bad thing I 
believe, Sometimes it gives the opportunity to say/shout: This is me! Here 
am I! Can be very healthy... (frustrating when nobody listens)

Thomas

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