> Nobody said life was easy - there are things one has to work at.

As I say, most other people have folks around them to turn to for 
support and encouragement. I don't really have that.

>> Most people fail sometimes, and succeed sometimes. Unfortunately, I fail
>> almost *all* the time. This is extremely depressing.
> 
> You *feel* you fail almost all the time.  That's not the same as actually 
> failing all the time.  Count the success - as in this case - of getting 
> the phone number, and having the courage to ask for it.  That's a win.  

Sure. It is. But one win doesn't make up for a lifetime of failure.

(What I need to do is figure out the next step. In various areas. But if 
I could do that... I would have already taken the next step, several 
years ago.)

> What it looks like from here is that you're looking at the entire 
> sequence of events as a total epic failure.  It's not.  There are small 
> successes in there and things you should be proud of having done.  So it 
> didn't work out with this one - ultimately, so what?  The thing is you 
> took a chance, and taking chances is what life is all about.  That's a 
> win no matter how you slice it.

I'm quite happy with how it went with this girl. What's depressing the 
hell out of me is my repeated attempts to get a job are getting me 
nowhere, my repeated attempts to have a social life are getting me 
nowhere, my repeated attempts to enjoy myself aren't working... it's 
just extremely demotivating when all you experience is failure.

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