"Invisible" <voi### [at] devnull> wrote in message 
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>>> Mmm, I guess they might...
>>
>>     Yep, they're out there. Be warned.
>
> Heh. The last girl I ever went out with took me on a trip to Blackpool 
> even though we had "split up" at that point. I didn't really realise until 
> afterwards that actually she just wanted me to pay for everything.
>

> But actually, I had a really awesome time. And I've never slept in the 
> same bed as a girl. (Although sleeping is all that happened. And yes, she 
> snores. Loudly.) So I just kept smiling anyway...
>
> In retrospect though... she really wasn't a very nice person. Kinda glad 
> it ended quickly. ;-)

      The important thing is that you enjoyed yourself. You had a great 
time, and you learnt a little more about 'life'.


>
>>> I was actually thinking more along the lines of "parenthood is an 
>>> utterly thankless task".

      It is, and I've always known that it would be. There are so many fine 
lines that you have to consider.


>>
>>      It's not until they decide that they've grown up enough to handle 
>> 'life' and want to do their 'own thing'. Problem is, they soon come back 
>> when in trouble, (and they will be), but then it's too late, the damage 
>> has been done.
>
> If I ever had children, I would try to be the best possible parent. But I 
> would do it with the certainty that I'm doing it all completely wrong, and 
> I have ruined my child's life as a result. I'm not sure I could live with 
> that kind of guilt.
>
> Being a parent just seems like an impossible task. If you're too strict, 
> they grow up with no self-confidence. If you're not strict enough, they 
> grow up as out-of-control runaways. If you restrict them too much, they 
> won't learn independence. If you don't restrict them enough, they'll be 
> spoilt brats. Every time anything bad happens to them, you have the 
> pleasure of knowing it's probably your fault. You get to waste endless 
> hours worrying about them.
>
> And at the end of it all, you get your reward: We don't need you. You were 
> a rubbish dad anyway. Goodbye.

      You've summed it up quite well there Andrew, that's exactly it. Take 
my position now. My son is coming and going as he pleases, he pays no rent, 
(and never did), I get no phone call or text to say whether he'll be back 
home for his tea, (three times this week, I've eaten his meal that I cooked, 
the next day). I know exactly where he's coming from and exactly what he 
wants me to do. He wants me to take him to task about all of this, and you 
know what happens next don't you? He then throws it back at me, and then 
moves out probably claiming that I threw him out to his 'crew'. But, it 
ain't gonna happen. I'm not saying anything. The path he takes now is his 
choice. And I know he will get in trouble of some kind, whether that's 
money, or some drugs hassle, (yes, I've smelt it in his room before now), or 
some police trouble, or some hospital trouble when he finally meets the 'big 
boys' in a club somewhere. He's too immature to be out there, and believe 
me, he thinks he's invincible. He's been pumping weights for the last four 
years pretty much constantly, (I've even found steroids in his room), but 
when he crosses the wrong person, he'll know about it.


>
> Like I said, a stressful and thankless task. :-(

      Yep.  :o(

    ~Steve~



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