Orchid XP v7 wrote:
> We've had this conversation plenty of times before. It keeps coming back 
> to the fact that I have no clue what TO do. Because I have no prior 
> experience to draw on. And - judging by the number of times it's been 
> discussed - nobody can explain it to me either. Maybe it's something that 
> can't be expressed in words, I don't know...

What to do can mostly be expressed with words, but the understanding of it 
mostly can only be achieved though personal experience. You have to live 
life to understand it, not listen to other people talk about it (though that 
works well as a supplement to living it).

And people here have come with lots of suggestions as to what TO do.

Some of them you say you are too afraid to do. Being afraid of unknown 
territory is natural, sometimes you just have to do it anyway. This IS 
easier said than done, but we've all had to do it at some point, and come 
out stronger in the end.

Some things you don't see the point in, because they're not what you want. 
You're at A and want D but you couldn't care less about B and C (and you 
can't see how B and C are going to lead to D). Well, sometimes you have to 
take small steps at a time. And since you don't seem to know how to get to D 
yourself, it might help to listen to the people who have successfully gotten 
to D. So, for example, if people say, "Step B would be to practice 
conversation with random strangers that you're not really interested in and 
who you're probably never going to meet again", well, then perhaps doing it 
WILL be a step towards *getting girlfriend* eventually, even though it seems 
pointless to you now. You have gotten variations over this advice countless 
of times now. Also, you seem to completely refuse that *moving away from 
home* will have any effect on *getting girlfriend* whatsoever, even though 
you'd had pretty clear advice that it *will* make a difference. And no, it's 
not too expensive if you rent.

Also, to some of the suggestions you say, like, "Er, sure. I already did 
that." Sometimes you surprise us with the progress you've already done! You 
may not feel like you're getting far, but you're certainly going forward.

Rune

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