On Tue, 02 Oct 2007 20:51:54 +0100, Orchid XP v3 wrote:

>> No, we just care for our mascot.
> 
> Ah, I *see*... So the constant criticising and belittling is becuase you
> guys actually *like* me? I was confused about that part...

Well, speaking for myself, it's never my intention to criticise or 
belittle you - but I can see how maybe it comes across that way sometimes.

It's just that when you make what (with a little more experience) is 
possibly a critical mistake, I at least am trying to speak up and say 
"been there, done that, it doesn't work (or didn't for me)" emphatically 
enough.

I was talking with my wife about this yesterday or the day before, 
actually, and it occurred to me that you're probably not at the point yet 
where you've made the mistakes that some of the rest of us have already 
learned from (like the comment about "getting into her pants"), but that 
maybe you say things like that here to see what the reaction is because 
this is a "safe" place for that kind of experimentation.

Or maybe not.

But either way, don't stop trying things out.  That's IMHO the best way 
to learn.

As for why she's still single - some people are strongly averse to dating 
in the workplace, because if you break up, that makes it more difficult - 
you still see them every day, even possibly have to work with them every 
day.  Some people aren't comfortable with that thought or idea.

Some employers expressly forbid dating coworkers - though it's not as 
common now as it used to be, I think; my dad's first wife was a woman he 
worked with, and they had to elope to get married - couldn't let anyone 
in the office know they were dating.  She quit once they got married.

When I started working for Novell, though, there was a couple in the 
training sales department who were married (and, coincidentally, also 
shared the same surname as I - but no relation).

Some people who are extroverted also like having a relationship outside 
of the environment where they "have" to be "on" all the time; a good 
friend of mine in the UK is very extroverted when he's with a group of 
people, but when he's with family (and we are fortunate enough that he 
considers us family) he is a lot less outspoken - and he's commented that 
it's nice to not have to be "on" all the time.

Jim

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